the danger with this approach is
that the object of your affections may think to herself "oh no, he's just asking me for coffee and a chat, he must be a bumsexual"
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 14 Dec 2009, 11:37, 1 reply)

See this is a common misconception
You arrange the first date as a possible bumsexual (as you so gloriously put it) but then you make it very clear on the coffee date that you are in fact a raging heterosexual.

By which time they're already comfortable in your presence.

I also find the "telling them you want to wait before sex" as the best way of getting sex far sooner than you first imagined.

Reverse psychology is great!
( JebediahSpringfield, Mon 14 Dec 2009, 11:39, closed)

you speak sense
providing that in the first instance the girl has room in her life for a mutual friend of dorothy
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 14 Dec 2009, 11:42, closed)

Just show her your cock.
It says so much without words.
(Tugnut Ex of this parish, Mon 14 Dec 2009, 12:43, closed)