Never underestimate...
the ability of people to be 'jealous' even in the face of unimaginable loss. When my fiance died, I was barred from his funeral for having fallen out with his parents over the last couple of months of his life (they insisted on more and more painful and harrowing chemo that would do no good at all, merely prolong what had become a wretched existence)
I was permitted to have the day of his funeral off as my boss knew I'd be no good whatsoever.
I found out later that someone had asked "why is Sal having the day off? It's not as if she's going to the funeral. Does she just get a day off for no reason?"

I felt like asking them if they'd like to swap places.
( Sallyrsm, Mon 6 Sep 2010, 18:42, Reply)