tell her
fuck the rest of the family, what would you rather do? hurt her feelings, or watch her die? as someone who's been about that size myself, i can say that none of my family held back in the name-calling stakes, making you feel a cunt is what brothers and sisters do. if you do hurt her feelings, there's a chance that it'll spur her to lose weight. she is seriouusly putting her life at risk, sparing her feelings ISN'T HELPING HER.
i've shed close to 17 stones over the last 2 years, so i know what i'm talking about. if you want to ask me anything, feel free to gaz me.
x
( Smash Monkey lowering the tone of the whole internet, Thu 26 Aug 2010, 19:36, 2 replies)

Yeah. Tiptoeing and sparing feelings does no-one any good when it's about the big issues.
If you can do it without being aggressive (and to be honest I'm not really seeing much of the wrath you mentioned; just understandable frustration); anyway, if you can be open and honest about their weight problems and how you feel about them and what it looks like from the outside...then the only reason they would have to be upset is because coming out of denial is painful, and that's not your fault, that's theirs.
Don't just stand by as other people fuck themselves up; they may not listen to you, but not doing everything you can won't help your own peace of mind or your sister's health.
(Falstaff's Spiritual Successor, Thu 26 Aug 2010, 21:50, closed)

Agreed
What will you regret more -- having your sister's feelings hurt or, once she's gone, knowing you never took the chance of being 'rude' and possibly helping her?

My mother-in-law is the opposite, anorexic to the point where I'm afraid to even give her a hug lest I snap a rib. The whole family (especially her sister) pretends nothing is wrong but my husband is terrified. He's decided that the best course of action is to confront her about it with whatever tactics it takes to get her to a doctor; denial hasn't worked very well for her so far and he says he'd rather his mother be angry with him than be dead.
(louveciennes , Volvospotter, Sun 29 Aug 2010, 18:59, closed)