I don't mean to sound unkind
but what happened to just 'we're waiting to start IVF?' I'm not sure an innocent question needs answers like the latter, even if they are being nosey. Maybe I'm not seeing the bigger picture here.
( Bats, Mon 16 May 2011, 5:37, 1 reply)

because in my tiny little head, I do have children
kinda no mans land.
I'm no stranger to being pregnant, but I'm still not a 'mum'.
And miscarriage has singlehandedly been a hugely redefining point of my life and yet also the most isolating too. And most people don't acknowledge that there was life, however many cells it got to, and there were still dreams, and we were parents, however brief. I maintain, ask a personal question, be prepared for a personal answer. Isn't that how we get to know one another? Or do we talk about American Idol and trivial shit till we die?
Five years ago I wouldn't have thought it was such a big deal, but now I know it is, for lots of people. I dunno, woffle to you, makes sense to me.
(maggotriddendirtbox fast, feral and sharp as a tack since, Mon 16 May 2011, 6:02, closed)

The missus had a miscarriage last year
f*cking awful. At the time I was immensely saddened but I saw it as the 1 that got away but I definitely get the dreams and aspirations etc. Had my snip since then but we inherited a cuckoo from a junky sister-in-law so there you go. Yes I know that's COMPLETELY unrelated but good luck with the IVF.
Give your bloke some cuddles because despite the notion - wanking into a cup was one of the most demoralizing and humiliating things that I've ever had to do.
(Misery McUglywife an attention seeking sociopathic fuckstain., Mon 16 May 2011, 6:55, closed)

Thank you. Should be in the next 2-3 months.
A bit terrified, am a needle-wuss. Bloke gets plenty of cuddles but will give him more.
I know he's gutted about it all too, and fortunately we have close family/friends that acknowledge his sadness too,yet I know blokes often get forgotten about. He has wanted kids for about 10 years longer than I have.

I call it the pressurewank. I know that doesn't help probably, but I'm trying to keep us giggling, and I do hear that the pressure wank isn't a bag on funspurtz for you blokes (although would GLADLY exchange right now for the needle through my vaginal wall sucking out the follicles off my ovaries). Always good to hear from those who have been through this too

Cheers
(maggotriddendirtbox fast, feral and sharp as a tack since, Mon 16 May 2011, 7:16, closed)

Have a hug from a bloke with the t-shirt
Just the one in our case, at around 11 weeks. It tore us up for quite a bit.

I well remember the pressurewank, along with the frantic phone calls arranging for a relief driver (fnarr) to collect my HGV from the clinic. I had been 100 miles away when they called MrsScars to tell the implantation window was open, and my boss couldn't have been more helpful. His name, for even greater values of Fnarr, was John Thomas.
(all my scars face forward possesses 2.5% of a hyperalloy combat chassis, Mon 16 May 2011, 9:29, closed)

win, win, win, win, win, etc.

(Misery McUglywife an attention seeking sociopathic fuckstain., Mon 16 May 2011, 9:35, closed)

thank you, Scarredone. Our longest one was around 14weeks, but stopped developing a bit earlier
Its more insiduous than you would expect, isn't it?
Yay to your boss and yay to John Thomas - better than fiction. Hope it all worked out for you in the end
(maggotriddendirtbox fast, feral and sharp as a tack since, Mon 16 May 2011, 11:33, closed)

She's 15
Good looking, charming, enraging and wonderful.
(all my scars face forward possesses 2.5% of a hyperalloy combat chassis, Wed 18 May 2011, 13:25, closed)

yay to happy endings for you!

(maggotriddendirtbox fast, feral and sharp as a tack since, Thu 19 May 2011, 10:50, closed)