My Dad is a crap drunk
My Dad has had a long love affair with booze.

As a child I remember him always having a post work "pint", although strangely enough I dont remember him drinking at home.

However, once my rents split up, he really threw himself into his hobby. Cue rambling drunken phone calls, from odd places, at odd hours. The huge car crash where his drunkeness was implied but never proven, and the subsequent weeks in hospital. His health deteriorating slowly over a number of years.

But as all of this happened somewhere else, never in front of me, it didnt hit home until I took my GF to meet him. He lives an hours flight away, so I dont see him with any regularity, well certainly not more than once a year. This was a big deal for me. I had to book holidays and arrange flights and accomodation so I could introduce my GF to him and his 2nd missus.

He had been ok for most of the holiday, we had taken him out so he could show us the sights. He was walking with sticks then, and had IBS, so we had to make sure that our sightseeing was planned around access and toilets. But he was sober. Until the 2nd last day of our stay

We rocked up at his house for 3pm to eat a "goodbye meal" at about 6pm, as we were flying out early the next day. We turned up and he was guttered.

Obviously, as we had been taking him out and about with us, he hadnt had the chance to sit in his living room, brooding at being made to take early retirement, or his health, or all the fuck ups he has made with his life, or the fact he live a gazzillion miles away, so he hadnt got pissed those days (or atleast until we had put him back in his front door).

But as we had turned up mid afternoon, he had started on the cooking whisky early on.

He could hardly string a sentence together, he couldnt stand and when he tried fell his full length and clattered off the dining table. He then became a somewhat pathetic specimen, mumbling continued apologies. I was mortified and the GF was embarrassed for me. And his missus was beyond embarrassed, I really felt for her too. The meal was eaten in almost silence, I couldnt wait to leave.

Next day I got a sober and very contrite apology phone call.

Now I realise there will be posts about how a drunk abusive parent hit person X or killed person Y. Or the tragic drunk driving stories and my story sounds a little lame.

I suppose my tale is about my denial of the facts not that my dads a drunk. Thats what the worst of it is, and that I am virtually powerless to stop the enevitable.

Wow! that was a buzzkill!

/makes the usual length joke
( Fire & Forget it's the only way to be sure, Fri 25 Feb 2011, 10:52, 4 replies)

My brother in law's mum
On meeting his new wife, my fiances sister. Couldn't find the keys to her house after they returned from a night out.

She was a bit of a lush at the time and proceeded to take her tights off and squat outside her own house doing a piss, welcome to the family darlin. Although he didn't speak to her for about 5 years. Think you did the right thing though, ignoring alcholics will only make them feel more sorry for themselves, which normally means more drinking. Fair play to your old man for staying off the sauce as long as he did though, must have taken a lot of willpower, shame it came apart a bit at the end. Anyway good tale well told.
(bROKEN aRROW PUA HVI Master, Fri 25 Feb 2011, 11:13, closed)

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Brilliant.
( Dr. Shambolic je suis charlie, Fri 25 Feb 2011, 11:21, closed)

Nice one
I wish everyone in Alanon/teen would realise that they too are powerless, and they really do need to give up on their drunks and get on with their own lives.

Who knows your dad may come to realise that too, but if not you just have to accept it. There's nothing you can do.
( buffet_the_appetite_slayer ٩(●̮̃•)۶ jacked in to the ICE on, Fri 25 Feb 2011, 12:04, closed)

the bastard of it is
I am 42 he is 66, and he has been a drunk for the last 30 that I am aware of and a crap one for the last 20.

I cant change him, I just hope it doesnt kill him
( Fire & Forget it's the only way to be sure, Sat 26 Feb 2011, 0:53, closed)