Well done. You did the right thing.
I have also cut my mother from my life and I know how hard it is, but also the weight that can be lifted off your shoulders. I feel more sane and at peace than I ever have done. Part of me misses having a mum, and I'd love a grandma for my son, but i'd never trade the stress I had then just to have a person around who happened to give birth to me.

And if it makes you feel any better, my dad told me - and was very insistent about it - that he was going to pay for my son's university costs about six years ago. When he died four years ago, it turned out that neither my brother, my son or I was left a penny in his will.

The irony was that my father was pretty well off and spent his career advising people on pensions, investments and life insurance so that his clients could provide for their family in the event of their death. Doh!!!
( camp freddy well, would you look at that!, Thu 12 Nov 2009, 21:26, 1 reply)

Thanks
Sorry to hear about your fucked up family. It was actually kind of a relief when he cut me off - I'd been worrying that he was going to do it for months so it was a weight of my shoulders in a way once he actually did it. It also meant I didn't have to put up with his crap anymore - he likes to use money to control people. In a way having such a crappy father has made me a better person - I'm not that fussed about material things and I'm very independent. On the down side he's probably ruined any chance of me having a healthy relationship with a man.
(mmm....beer, Thu 12 Nov 2009, 22:05, closed)