well
Yeah the statistics aren't necessarily representative of happiness, but I think you are wrong, esp in today's society. Arranged marriages are little different then an elaborate form of eharmony where your parents introduce you and you normally get the end say. I am sure there are abuses of this system .. but I couldn't say anything authoritative about it as I have no data. I should imagine there are probably just as many abusive relationships resulting from personal choice.

A lot of professional people choose to take this route, both men and women. It is very common among affluent Indians living in New York who have the choice and want someone who is culturally similar.

It is a cultural thing, it may not be your culture but it works for some and not for others.
(schlam la souris est sous la table, Mon 22 Feb 2010, 15:39, 1 reply)

A valid point
but I think the individual should be responsible for every aspect of their life. There should be no possibility to avoid responsibility for choice of partner, failure or success.

I think that everyone should be able to look back as they die (not that I imagine it'll be high on the list of priorities as you choke your last) and think, "I made the right choices; I did well" or "I fucked that up didn't I"

No-one should have the option to die thinking "If only I had taken control of my own life more"

Mind you, I duck responsibility more than I should.
( disasterprone "Pyjamas caused the Holocaust", Tue 23 Feb 2010, 13:40, closed)

My problem
is that I'm not good with blokes. At all. I did try internet dating which is how I met my ex. And almost accepted a Dutchman's offer of a stay in his cabin in the woods but didn't after my driving instructor pointed out how silly that would be.

At least with an arranged marriage expectations would be low(er).
(ToysForBigBoys would spread her legs for Nick Clegg., Wed 24 Feb 2010, 15:33, closed)