A valid point
but I think the individual should be responsible for every aspect of their life. There should be no possibility to avoid responsibility for choice of partner, failure or success.

I think that everyone should be able to look back as they die (not that I imagine it'll be high on the list of priorities as you choke your last) and think, "I made the right choices; I did well" or "I fucked that up didn't I"

No-one should have the option to die thinking "If only I had taken control of my own life more"

Mind you, I duck responsibility more than I should.
( disasterprone "Pyjamas caused the Holocaust", Tue 23 Feb 2010, 13:40, 1 reply)

My problem
is that I'm not good with blokes. At all. I did try internet dating which is how I met my ex. And almost accepted a Dutchman's offer of a stay in his cabin in the woods but didn't after my driving instructor pointed out how silly that would be.

At least with an arranged marriage expectations would be low(er).
(ToysForBigBoys would spread her legs for Nick Clegg., Wed 24 Feb 2010, 15:33, closed)