I'm trying to lose the excess weight, so hopefully I'll get my self esteem back. There are so many clothes I cannot wear at my current size, and it sucks.

My friends have been really sweet and claim men might find me intimidating. Quite why, I've no idea!

Being more sociable would help me loads and I'm working on that too.

I'm not the most patient person in the world, and am aware that if I'm still single by the time I turn 30, the family will be on my case. And I'm aware that an arranged marriage won't be like a love marriage. There wouldn't be much in the way of romance or anything like that.
(ToysForBigBoys would spread her legs for Nick Clegg., Thu 25 Feb 2010, 12:02, 1 reply)

Sounds like you're doing a lot to help yourself then.
Finding the right person might take time, but it'll be way more worth it IMO and you may even get romance like this:

kotaku.com/201299/the-mario-wedding-cake

My wife outright refused from an early age to have an arranged marriage as she wanted to 'pick her own'. Aside from making me feel like a piece of fruit, she's happy to be in control of her own destiny and we've been happily married 5 years with a beautiful baby (she's annoyed that he looks a bit pasty though).

Every Asian person I know who's over 25 gets hassle from their folks, but people get married later these days so in most cases the parents have to suck it up. Don't do things because your family pressure you to. Good luck!
(The man with the flan swashed his buckle on, Thu 25 Feb 2010, 12:44, closed)