It seems
I'm the first one to begin the inevitable flaming that is due to come your way.

I'm not going to get into the perenially thorny issue of nature versus nurture, but you should really be choosing your words with a little more care. And tact.

Our parents are one of the single biggest influences on our lives, and it takes a lot to de-program some of the shit that the less parentally-inclined put their children through. Whilst you have your opinion and you're quite welcome to stick to it, I would put it to you that those who still have personal problems as a result of parental abuse when they were children are not, as you so indelicately put it a "whinging [...] bunch of pussies" who need to "grow the f@#$ up". They are people with a set of personal problems that I couldn't even hope to comprehend, much less help with. And
for the record, I've never been abused myself. Crass statements such as yours do very little to help matters.

Oh, and one final thing. We are allowed to swear on this board. So grow some fucking balls and don't asterisk out your swearing, it makes you look even more retarded than your previous statements have done.

*Deep breath*
( jim_bob can herd cats., Sat 2 May 2009, 23:23, 1 reply)

Flaming
Fair enough, but take note I said "most" not "all". Have you ever met a person who acts like a complete cunt to everyone, and blames it on his upbringing? If you can recognize you behavior is bad, you can change it. If you cant, or won't change it, don't expect my tolerance.
BTW. I have been abused, physically and emotionally by my Father, and sexually by a babysitter. I am not, and have never been, abusive to my Family or friends as a result.
I think that shows I have more "balls" than swearing on a message board.
(micmac is happy as a pig in shite, Sun 3 May 2009, 2:51, closed)

OK, fair enough
But your original post did come across as a bit holier than thou. Perhaps if you'd expanded it a bit you wouldn't have got the flaming.

But good on you for having dealt with shit and come out of it without using it as a prop. You're right; a lot of people do.

I'd probably be a lot more lucid if it wasn't 3 am :)
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Sun 3 May 2009, 3:10, closed)

I can't say as I have.
That said, I'm quite patient, usually. All the people I have met with that kind of past tend to be kind and gentle individuals with a few issues that can generally be worked around. But then again, my experience of this is limited.

And I think your statement regarding being unwilling to change negative behaviours applies to all people, not just those unfortunate enough to have a childhood like the one you say you experienced.
( jim_bob can herd cats., Sun 3 May 2009, 11:27, closed)