of course
but i've never yet met a man who's been beaten up by his wife on a regular basis
( Smash Monkey lowering the tone of the whole internet, Thu 20 May 2010, 17:43, 3 replies)

I have.
It was just as unpleasant, and he put up with it because he didn't feel he could talk to anyone - after all, what do most people think of a man who gets beaten up by his wife? - and it's just as wrong.
( sanityclause is waiting until, Thu 20 May 2010, 17:46, closed)

therein lies the problem
those women who do decide to get out have places to go and people to turn to. they know this because women talk about things like this. a man in the same situation is likely to be very alone and not know who to turn to for help. fuck feeling emasculated, get out!
( Smash Monkey lowering the tone of the whole internet, Thu 20 May 2010, 17:51, closed)

Why are the guys trapped?
Is it money as it often seems (to me at least) o be with women? Is it access to kids?
I'd buy a jock-strap, a box and a video camera in that position.
Are people trapped by physical abuse this century?
(Me, I'm not... in any way intoxicated, Thu 20 May 2010, 18:35, closed)

same reasons as why the women feel trapped, i would imagine
i can't give a definitive answer to this, i've never been in that situation and i'm not male. the point is was making is that women are far more likely to talk to someone about these problems, thus gaining help and support.
( Smash Monkey lowering the tone of the whole internet, Thu 20 May 2010, 18:40, closed)

It happens...
It happens more than you might think, and it goes _almost_ entirely unreported.
Partly because no bloke wants it noised around that he got beaten by a woman. Partly because a man reporting it is assumed to be lying.
Partly because any man who defends himself physically is acused of being the agressor.

Please don't just think "yeah, but women have it worse!" try to ignore the genders and just focus on getting the victim out from under.

(example texts)
www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/article1076854.ece

www.independent.co.uk/opinion/commentators/johann-hari/now-men-are-the-silent-victims-of-domestic-violence-584435.html
( DukeEuphoria Comes highly reccomended, Thu 20 May 2010, 17:57, closed)

i know it happens
being an abusive cunt is not gender-specific. it's just that i have either never met a man who has been in this situation, or i have and they've hidden it very well
( Smash Monkey lowering the tone of the whole internet, Thu 20 May 2010, 18:05, closed)

Hello. I was beaten up by a (very ex) girlfriend on a regular basis.
And now you have met me.

I'm not kidding. Every argument she started (and there were many) would end up with her thumping me, while I stood and took it because I couldn't hit her back, but I didn't know what else to do. Her spurious justification was that I'd thumped her once while too drunk to remember; it too me far to long to realise that since truth and honesty were strangers to her, this might have been some sort of fabrication.
(Falstaff's Spiritual Successor, Thu 20 May 2010, 18:27, closed)

glad she's your ex
as a woman, i'll say this to any and every man: hitting a woman is wrong, but so is hitting a man. if she's laying into you, she obviously doesn't give a fuck about right and wrong, so thump her back. self-defence is ALLOWED
( Smash Monkey lowering the tone of the whole internet, Thu 20 May 2010, 18:31, closed)

Or just fucking leave!
Seriously, if you're in love and it's their first and only time they'll let you go out of guilt -- if not then leave and tell your freinds they're abusive.
Stop pussyfooting people!
(Me, I'm not... in any way intoxicated, Thu 20 May 2010, 19:00, closed)

Unfortunately, I can't agree
Unless you have dozens of sober witnesses to say you were provoked beyond reason...and even then half of them will vilify you for being a lass-basher. And if you don't have the witnesses...you're fucked. No way is anybody going to take your side...maybe the two or three people who know you best, but what use are they when the angry mob comes knocking? No, the best course of action is the same at it is for women in that situation..get the hell out.
(Falstaff's Spiritual Successor, Thu 20 May 2010, 19:08, closed)

infuriating, isn't it?
sexual stereotyping and mob mentality mean you're damned if you don't and you're damned if you do.
( Smash Monkey lowering the tone of the whole internet, Thu 20 May 2010, 19:12, closed)