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My mother is an expert in the guilt-trip. Last week she phoned to say "Happy Birthday" and, after a 10 minute conversation, finished with, "Well, I hope you have a nicer time than I did on the day you were born."

She also stated that she was going to kill herself when she reached 65. On Christmas Day morning. Having rung up to see if there was anything she could bring for lunch.

I think it's just a mother thing, but how good are your relatives and friends at the passive-aggessive?

(, Thu 13 Oct 2005, 9:52)
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It's a boy thing too..
... tis not only the ladies who pull this kind of trick. Boyfriends in the past (and there's been some gems) have perpetrated the following:

Not wanting to kiss/hold hands/ have even the mildest public display of affection, but being unable/unwilling to actually say so or admit when asked/confronted. So if I went to do any of the above, he would adopt a mong-like middle distance stare and let his arms hang limply by his sides. "Don't you want me to kiss you Cuntboy?" "No, no clapper, it's fine..." Just tell me you weak piece of shit! (I have to admit most of my still raging anger at this man stems from my self-loathing at my stupidity for going out with him for a year.) Our twisted excuse for a relationship climaxed with him calling me a cunt and threatening to stamp on my throat. I actually preferred this out-and-out aggression to the passive kind. Not that any of it's good.

A boyfriend who was the master of the hangdog puppy eyes. WHAT'S WRONG? JUST TELL ME! I AM NOT PSYCHIC AND CANNOT GUESS!!! Boys- these kind of eyes are only cute when actual puppies do it. Anyone else (including grwon dogs and children) will just prompt the punching instinct. Or go out with their mates, which is what I did rather than slapping.

A boyfriend who would do favours/buy gifts. This is not bad, but in my moral world gifts and favours should be freely given. Not used as a reason for 3 hour whingeathons about how much it cost/put you out because the only thing you said was 'thanks that's really nice' rather than writing hymns of glory to their wonderfulness.

My response now to all attempts at emotional blackmail is a disinterested "oh well. Never mind."

Predict this QOTW will provke hitherto unimagined levels of bile and resentment...
(, Thu 13 Oct 2005, 13:15, Reply)

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