To be fair, you weren't looking for a partner. You were looking for a place to stay that's close to your work. You didn't like any of the other places or landlords. You found a great place, with a landlord who you seem to get along fine with, who is willing to cook and spend time with you.

You have the following two options:

1- Take it for what it is. A place to live near work with a friend (with occasional benefits) who you happened to fall for (overstepping your boundaries) in a no strings agreement of sorts.

2- Leave it behind and find somewhere else to live if the situation is too painful for you.

Take a minute to collect yourself. She is not likely looking for a relationship with you, but you were there when she needed someone. A friends-with-benefits situation is not meant to be permanent, but it's fun while it lasts. You can accept it for what it is and enjoy it, or hold out that it'll become something more and deal with the emotional rollercoaster that will inevitably come with.

It really depends on you and how well you cope with commitment, attachment, friendship, and loss. Personally, I would treat it the same way I treat a vacation. A great time to be had, with all the "now this is the life" that comes with it, the occasional wish that it could be permanent, and a night getting incredibly drunk when I realise I have to go home soon. Don't waste your whole vacation bummed out that it's temporary. Enjoy yourself.

I'll leave you with this: I've never regretted a vacation.
(Turtlenuts, Tue 11 Jan 2011, 19:23, 1 reply)

I found this so incisive - truly thought provoking. Thanks man
(SausageWarrior destination Zululand, come on boys jump in the van, Tue 11 Jan 2011, 23:43, closed)

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(little lord muthafuckin fauntleroy, Wed 12 Jan 2011, 1:11, closed)