Speaking as a woman who has had casual sex with male friends
I would never, never have done or said anything to them that would humiliate them or hurt their feelings and I would never tolerate it if they did that to me. Did you make it quite clear that you were unhappy and shocked? If so (and I'm inclined to think you did) she is being a complete bitch and manipulating you, so you should get the hell out.

People who care about each other apologise for hurting each other's feelings, even if they are just very casual friends and even if they aren't certain that feelings have been hurt.

If, on the other hand, you are brilliant at hiding your facial expressions and said nothing to her that indicated any displeasure, then tell her how you feel and see if she responds. If not, hand in your notice or have a massive head-fuck for months, while paying her to do it.
(IHateSprouts is baking a huge pie shaped like an enormous pie, Tue 11 Jan 2011, 20:30, 1 reply)

Interesting you use the word "manipulating" - my female friend mentioned in the story used the same word. Surely she's not that calculating? Or am I that naive?
(SausageWarrior destination Zululand, come on boys jump in the van, Tue 11 Jan 2011, 23:44, closed)