SAving my dignity - yes, I'd like that very much. I'm thinking it's too late for that
(SausageWarrior destination Zululand, come on boys jump in the van, Tue 11 Jan 2011, 23:47, 1 reply)

She sounds a bit mad
But I suspect the prospects are gloomy.

She has what seems to be a reliable, normal person 'available' to her, and clearly she doesn't have any objection to how you look / behave.

There are two possibilites -

a) Despite having a stable relationship there for the taking, she chooses not to, and chooses to go out on the prowl instead - if that's the case, it's unlikely that you are what she is looking for.

b) Is is possible she doesn't realise what you want yet? You have nothing to lose except a convenient place to live if you make that clear. If she doesn't want that, you were never going to get what you wanted anyway, so you've lost nothing. So tell her.

I think Smash Monkey said something quite important. If she really only saw you as a convenient fuck/income supplement, she wouldn't have bothered to get you back there. It doesn't sound like she'd have much trouble replacing you as a lodger, if it was only about the rent.

Don't sit there wondering. talk to her. At least if she says piss off, you can start getting on with your life.
( Not Pineapple anymore, Wed 12 Jan 2011, 9:36, closed)