TheManWhoWasABitOfACunt
When I was in high school (that's age 14 or so to 18 or so for you Yurpeans) I dated a girl for about three and a half years. I was the jealous sort, as she was quite a pretty girl (although not too bright) and she'd never quite catch on that she was being hit on by, well, just about everyone I thought.

Now, after a year or two in, I got more and more jealous. Every "close guy friend" was trying to sleep with her, every stranger she met was trying to hit on her, even her gay guy friends were trying to cop a feel. I'd read her emails, her texts, her IMs, I'd find out where she was and who she was with, and every time she didn't pick up the phone when she said she would she was obviously being humped in a bathroom stall by a complete stranger. Turns out, three months after we broke up I found out that she had in fact slept with one of her "close guy friends" (who was an all-around twunt) a few times while we had been together, justifying in my eyes all the years of anger, hurt and jealousy I had felt towards her.

The hypocrisy? You guessed it. I had cheated on her several times throughout the three and a half years with little to no thought of remorse, only acting apologetic when I had been caught.

A few years later, my then-current girlfriend used the fact that I had cheated in the past to use as emotional blackmail, keeping me constantly on my toes, always having to prove my fidelity, losing touch with most of my good female friends in the process. I had changed, I was good, I was faithful, but nothing I could do could prove my innocence (once a cheater always a cheater) and I was miserable for it.

The punchline? She cheated on me. Twice.

Got what I had coming to me, I think.
(TheManWhoWas SlightlyKnackered, Thu 19 Feb 2009, 17:46, 2 replies)

Sadly I think you did a bit
Though now you've experienced that situation from both sides, maybe it all cancels out and for next time you're all back to a sort of karmic-neutral?
(icassu, Thu 19 Feb 2009, 19:07, closed)

Actually, yeah
I'm with a new girl who I'd never dream of cheating on, and whom (although with all I've been through I wouldn't think was possible) I absolutely trust.

Of course, if she does cheat on me, I'll have to swear off everything besides the most casual of one night stands forever, but there's upsides to that too.

I could drink more, for one.
(TheManWhoWas SlightlyKnackered, Fri 20 Feb 2009, 20:57, closed)