Trust Me..
It's an experience thing.

Young men are brought up to think that, to be a sex God, you have to stick your tongue as far as you can down a girls throat (if you cant taste her last meal you're doing it wrong mate...) maul her tits (they love it when you squeeze really hard mate) then ram your love-muscle as hard as you can into her ladybits. Then you have to hammer away as hard and fast as you can (while reciting multiplication tables in your head so you don't come too quickly). The coup de grace is to pull out and shoot your load all over her face (they all love that mate - makes them cum...)

It takes a while, a few lovers, and a lot of actually talking to women before pennies start to drop and you start taking your time and finding out what the particular woman you're with really likes.

Young women have similar delusions. A lot seem to think that moaning and (please God no!) screaming, means that they're having great sex. What it actually does is reinforce his delusion that all women want is for a bloke to shag them like a demented jack-hammer on speed.

There's absolutely nothing wrong in, sometimes, being selfish and letting your lover bring you off. It can create a sense of power in one and gratitude in the other. Conversely, there's an enormous amount of satisfaction in giving the one you love an orgasm - even if you don't cum yourself.

Sex? It's a give and take thing.

Cheers
( Legless Mister Stabby - shanks for the memory, Sun 20 Apr 2008, 13:32, Reply)