To L
I guess I'll never be able to tell you this to your face, too many people would be hurt.

You are the most wonderful, beautiful, amazing person alive, inside and out, and you don't even realise it. Whenever we meet we spark, there's electricity between us, we're different people. You've told me that yourself. You're everything I could have ever wanted and more.

I asked you out. You said you didn't date men you worked with. I was heartbroken, but I understood. Doing what we do for a living, to spend so much time working so closely in an intimate space, I understand how that would be impossible with someone who you went out with and broke up with. It would devastate both our careers. I understood that it was a risk you didn't want to take, I know how much your career means to you, it means the same to me too.

You set me up with your best friend C, and we hit it off. She's cute, funny, empathic and is totally head-over-heels in love with me. I try so hard to be everything I can be for her.

But she isn't you.

Then you told me that you'd changed your mind - that you would have to take the risk of dating someone in your work circle, that you were so committed to your career they would be the only men you would be likely to meet - and that a man who doesn't do what you do for a living could never truly understand you. The only barrier that ever kept us apart is gone, but now it's too late.

Even if C and I split up, I could never go out with you now - I wouldn't do that to your best friend and you wouldn't let me do it. I can never have you. I see you almost every day, and every day is a reminder of what I could have had, but now can't. Every day I see your beautiful face, and fight my desire to fall totally in love with you. C thinks the world of me, I could never bring myself to hurt her, she is a beautiful soul and a wonderful person.

But she isn't you.

Dammit, she isn't you.
(Axeman Jim, Thu 4 Mar 2010, 22:40, 8 replies)

Sixth attempted response...
I've been sympathetic, then suggested tactics, then worried about poor C in all this, offered advice, got angry about C and finally I'm throwing my hands up and admitting this is way beyond me.
You're well fucked and worse, you know it.
I wish you all the luck in the world mate and when you have to run away and hide on the other side of the world, look me up in Sydney and I'll buy you a beer.
( difficultchild, Thu 4 Mar 2010, 23:09, closed)

This,
But in NZ, y'know.

Not Sydney.
(Scritty Bakerman., Sat 6 Mar 2010, 21:23, closed)

Ouch.
*click* for you, I know how you're feeling.

I wish I hadn't read this topic now.
(WillI'mNot logs in twice a year, every year, Fri 5 Mar 2010, 0:05, closed)

Man Up!
Boy, NUT up or SHUT Up... go grab that tart and sort it out, lifes for living, a life with regrets is a wasted life and with so much shite floating around you cant afford to waste it, go get her tiger!
(phils1969, Fri 5 Mar 2010, 12:07, closed)

So...
you want me to make a pass at (or was it rape?) the girl of my dreams and have her never speak to me again, cheat on (and lose) my girlfriend, and throw both my career and the career of someone I care so much about down the toilet for the chance of a cheap shag.

Nice thinking there, Einstein.
(Axeman Jim, Fri 5 Mar 2010, 21:34, closed)

i know
can you not just do L up the shitter, cause if you dont do C up the shitter, just plunge her clunge, than that technically isn't cheating according to the monogomous relationship act 1974 and the monogomous relationship act amendement 1985.
UP HER SHIT CHUTE MAN, STICK IT UP HER SHIT CHUTE!
(little lord muthafuckin fauntleroy, Fri 5 Mar 2010, 22:03, closed)

Ah
Thats the saddest, sweetest thing Ive ever read.
(kitescreech still here, Sun 7 Mar 2010, 9:53, closed)

But also the most selfish...

( difficultchild, Mon 8 Mar 2010, 1:23, closed)