It's probably something to do with
the attitude many (not all) women have to their partner's friends, and indeed to the very concept of their partner being able to go out and have a good time without them. Some men are like this with their women as well, but I think it's a particularly female trait.
Why anyone should live in the delusional world that their partner should only be able to have fun when with them is beyond me. If you can't trust someone, accept their need to be with others as well as you, in fact realise that no one person can supply every need for human interaction, then the relationship becomes possession.
Loving someone is setting them free, knowing that if they love you they can be trusted and should be. Possessive love isn't love, it's not pretty and it doesn't in the long term work. I need friends as much as I need a partner, and woe betide any woman who fails to accept that point.
Although lying about when you're coming back is silly, a woman should accept it if one night a week their man goes out, gets bladdered with the lads and comes back in a state stinking of kebabs and booze. Not pretty, for sure, but better that than staying in and feeling resentful and trapped.
If you love someone, it should be their happiness you value - not your possession over them.
Ladies (and men) take note !
( I_Was_Mordred, Thu 6 Dec 2007, 10:03, Reply)