Relationship advice
From this week onwards Mr Bin and I will be having weekends off.
This is the first time in our whole 10 years that this has happened. Before we have both worked Saturdays and had a different day off in the week.
I don't think I can cope.
As soon as I get a job this means that we will have every day off and holiday together.
I need my own space. I am an only child who grew up in a small village. I need alone.

How do you cope?

I would welcome advice.
( Mrs Entity is in hiding., Mon 1 Sep 2008, 23:14, 9 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

How about...
Tell him this?
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Mon 1 Sep 2008, 23:29, Reply)

See how it goes first
before you start stressing about it. You might find it's a good thing :)

If it's shit then you can always designate certain days to doing stuff alone and then get together in the evening to talk about what you did.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Mon 1 Sep 2008, 23:29, Reply)

Well I'm not married
But as an only child I understand what you mean.

I would recommend having a day or a few hours where you each do something by yourself, like you coming on here to play with us an him watching TV. Or him going out to play golf with the boys/down the pub/watching racing wahtever...
( TGB checking Off Topic is still shit at, Mon 1 Sep 2008, 23:32, Reply)

I've told him already
To be honest we are both the same.

I think we are just going to have to agree that one of us just goes out.
( Mrs Entity is in hiding., Tue 2 Sep 2008, 7:44, Reply)

Glad to hear you've told him already
Being able to talk to each other about anything at all is the most important thing in a relationship imo whether it be a romantic endeavour or "simply" a very close friend.
( Captain V, Tue 2 Sep 2008, 8:45, Reply)

It's something we are both worried about
As we have said to each other it's not the same both of you in the house doing your own thing.

We both need to be in the house alone.

I think we are just going to have run up a schedule.

What I was really wondering was how other people cope. Other people have weekends off together, how do they not go mad.
( Mrs Entity is in hiding., Tue 2 Sep 2008, 9:06, Reply)

the Mrs and I
make sure we have enough time to ourselves during the week

and then we do things and enjoy each others company at the weekends

we probably spend more time together than most couples, but it's only occasionally that it gets to us

(like when we've spent all our free time in the bloody bathroom together doing DIY)
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 2 Sep 2008, 9:55, Reply)

Some people are like that
others want to spend as much time together as possible. My ex and I were the latter case. I'm not a fan of being on my own. I'm not terribly interesting.
( Kroney, Tue 2 Sep 2008, 10:44, Reply)

Problematic, isn't it?
It's worse when one of you wants to have space but the other wants to be right there by your side as much as possible. How do you tell them, without hurting their feelings, that they're making you mental and you need the alone time?

Answer: you tell them gently, and let them weep until they're done.

Felt like a right bastard, I did...
( The Resident Loon Not a demographic. Do not measure., Tue 2 Sep 2008, 13:17, Reply)