Ancrenne,
Did you set out any kind of ground-rules in writing? Has she signed anything to say her lodging there is conditional of being a decent human being?

If so I would remind her of that. And if not, I think you have to gird your loins and give her notice. It's YOUR space she's violating with her unreasonableness, and as such you have to protect it.

I speak as one who had an obnoxious merkin in my house for 9 months against my will and went actually crazy from it. The old limbic brain kicking in. To this day I can't share my space for more than a day or two without feeling invaded and going funny in the head.

Good luck sweetie, you have our support, and you don't deserve to take shit off anyone.
( warmfuzzies Isn't here, Mon 22 Sep 2008, 18:47, Reply)