I'm going to regret saying this, but here I go........
I'm having extreme trouble understanding the "you must tell the truth and follow your morals even if it makes things uncomfortable for a while" argument.

If you tell the truth, because it makes you feel better, then, one has to ask oneself "Why am I doing this? Because it's the right thing to do? or because it makes me feel better?"

We all harbour secrets in one form or another and we keep them because the truth would devastate lives for little or no reason. From telling a partner than their bum DOESN'T look big in that dress to "Yes, dear. You ARE the biggest I've ever had!".

Incidentally, the ethics of whether this is an open relationship or not, it highly relevant, because as Loony pointed out, we're all talking about something with far too many variables and and lots of salient pieces of information missing. In other words, we're all talking about a situation we know very little about.

Can we talk about zombie apocalypse now....? (see HSH thread)

*Edit* I agree, CHC. Now get yourself a decent car! ;O)
(The Stig, Mon 29 Sep 2008, 17:52, Reply)