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Sorry for the delay in replying- I was at lunch.

Me? I wouldn't say any such thing, really. Nor would I get into that position in general. I was basically paraphrasing advice that I've seen in Savage Love a number of times. But usually it's advice to a married couple who don't want to divorce. The typical example is a couple where one has high libido and the other has low libido- eventually the high libido person is going to get their needs met elsewhere. The way Dan Savage put it was that you can have low libido or you can have monogamy, but not both. Obviously that's not quite the case here, as they're not married and tied to one another, but it's still an interesting discussion point.

Were I not married and thoroughly rooted with another, I wouldn't chase outside the relationship if my needs were not being met, I would end the relationship and search for whatever it was that I needed. But that's me.
( The Resident Loon Not a demographic. Do not measure., Mon 29 Sep 2008, 18:38, Reply)