Ah, why not, everyone else has...
MM, I don't envy your position.

As far as relationships are concerned in my opinion sex is the glue that holds them together - it's a form of communication and if you're not having sex then you're no longer communicating well.
I'm not sure that I can agree with the argument about sex lessening with the length of the relationship - I was with my ex for twelve years and we were having pretty much the same quantity of sex towards the end as we were at the beginning. Of course there are natural waxing and wanings but still to remain bonded as a couple you *have* to have sex - in my world anyway.
If one partner feels the need to go out and experience different things sexually then either they're not with the right person or they're simply not ready to settle down with one person. There is nothing wrong with feeling these things. There is however everything in the world wrong with lying to a partner.

However, would I say anything to either party about the knowledge of wrongdoing?

Probably not simply because I'm first and foremost a coward and secondly because I don't know what it's like to be in their relationship.

Case in point - a friend of a friend has just got married to an openly gay man. Her family refused to attend the wedding because he's gay and they can't see how the two of them could possibly have a 'proper' marriage.

I can't see how they could have what I would consider to be a marriage of the sort that I would experience. But I'm not them. She's fully aware of his background. He adores her and she him. It's none of my business what they get up to (or don't) in the bedroom.

That said there are no lies in this relationship and that's the real problem...lies.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Mon 29 Sep 2008, 22:24, Reply)