Hmm.
It's hard to make judgement calls from little information (and goodness knows none of us really want to share all on the internets. HOWEVER.
From the little you've said so far he falls into the manipulative controlling mindset. Consciously or subconsciously he will also be using sex (or the lack of it) as a control factor in your relationship. Although you make yourself sound like a clinging needy mess I'm sure you aren't, sinmply unsure as to why you are continuing to make your investment in this person. Becky's list idea isn't a bad one. All relationships are really profit and loss accounts. When you get to the point where the returns no longer outweigh the bad points a decision needs to be made. Will it get better or will it get worse?

My understanding of the situation is that you don't really wantt anyone to tell you what to do, you will make your own mind up. That is as it should be. If however this has helped clear your mind and focus you a bit better, all to the good. Only you can make you miserable. Anything else can and should be changed. Trite I know but it works for me. Best wishes whichever way you go.
(porkylips looks better as the sun goes down., Tue 28 Apr 2009, 13:43, Reply)