Am I the only one
to think it's a bit... crap... to be asked by him if he needs to get a cake?

Why would he ask her that? Is he not capable of taking responsibility for the cake himself? Just what kind of man is he?

Or is she so contrary and volatile that he thinks he will get it wrong no matter what he does...? Is he so scared that he needs her approval before he can perform a spontaneous thoughtful act? If he gets a cake he will be made to feel responsible for her diet going to ruin and her pants being too tight...? or if he doesn't get a cake she will martyr herself as a cakeless neglected victim...?

Maybe he has a vague and nebulous memory of her refusing cake elsewhere, maybe someone else's birthday party, and has confusion over whether she actually likes cake or not.

Or is he just too lazy to take the initiative?

Well, without knowing the answers to these questions and more about the history and background of this, frankly disturbing, situation, how can we be expected to make an informed judgement?
( warmfuzzies Isn't here, Sat 30 May 2009, 23:06, Reply)