Voice of experience here
I fell in love with a 37 year old when I was 17. There's quite a long post about it in my profile. It's not a nice one.

People had a lot to say about it when we got together. And it went all kinds of wrong, but we lasted 13 years. We might not have done if some people hadn't been so fucking negative about it to begin with... There's nothing like people telling you that they know better to make you want to be with the one person who seems to understand you.

And besides the shit I went through I learned more in the 13 years with him than anyone else I know in their relationships, good and bad. I wouldn't change that. I don't look back and think it was the wrong thing to do to get together with him. I do have regrets, but that's not one of them. He was actually an amazing person and I'm glad I met him.


But above all, even if it was a mistake - it was my mistake to make.

So VC - I bet you're feeling sick of everyone analysing you and your relationship without actually knowing you or knowing as much about it as you do. And probably sick too of people going out of their way to find fault with you.

Everyone else - give her a fucking break. It may be a fairytale and they'll live happily ever after. It may all go royally tits up. But it's her life, just let her fucking live it. At least she's doing SOMETHING instead of just sitting around bitching about other people. Have you never made a mistake? Ever wondered "what if?" Ever been young and just wanted to be loved for who you are?? Who are you to judge her?
( warmfuzzies Isn't here, Thu 18 Jun 2009, 20:39, Reply)