Advice from Old PeopleSometimes, just sometimes, old people say something worth listening to. Ok, so it's like picking the needle out of a whole haystack of mis-remembered war stories, but those gems should be celebrated.
Tell us something worthwhile an old-type person has told you.
Note, we're leaving the definition of old up to you, you smooth-skinned youngsters.
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chthonic, Thu 19 Jun 2008, 16:16)
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Be a manMy father once said "Real men don't cry."
Perhaps there was more wisdom in this then intended, as I no longer waste my time with tears.
From this sentence, I've concluded:
What good comes of tears? None.
Pain will pass, get a grip. If it ain't a lost limb or an impailment it isn't as bad as it could be.
Love. If they break your heart they ain't worth it, infact, they did you a favour, your now free for the right girl or guy.
Sport. It's a game.
Family. Just because you share DNA, don't feel a need to impress them. If they don't approve, so what?
Death. Did you expect them to live forever? Why mourn some one? If you love them, be thankfull for every second you shared rather then wishing for more.
Money. Spend the time you'd waste crying working your way out, and thank the global lottery you grew up in a developed country.
TV/Films. It's a script, no matter how good, its still, just a flight of fancy.
World events. Yeah, that earthquake is awfull, but guess what? Your tears are alot less good to the situation then a bit of change.
Fear. If your going down, go down swinging. Stand tall and give 'em hell, fear shrinks away if you confront it.
Tears of joy, now that IS worth it. If somthings so good it makes you cry then it shows how easily over come despair is.
Appologies for length, but are they tears of joy or pain?
(Sorry for spelling or grammer problems, dyslexia and no spell check function is a piss poor combination)
(, Wed 25 Jun 2008, 1:43, 4 replies)
Feh.There's nothing wrong with crying. It lets off excess tension and frustration and is actually very satisfying in small doses. If you remain functional when you cry, and don't dissolve into a useless pool of maudlin sentimentality, it can be very healthy. It might even spur you to make progress on whatever problem is upsetting you in the first place. I hate the macho, "be a man" no crying policy.
And plus, girls fawn all over men who cry.
(, Wed 25 Jun 2008, 2:17, closed)
Its a "Strong man" that isn't afraid to cry.An emotion. Part of being human. To train yourself not to, is not being a man at all.
Sounds like your old man is afraid. The fear that somebody might perceive him as being weak.
All of your above statements money, death etc. Have merits in their own context, But the starting comment of "Real men don't cry" perplexes me, because it is a contradiction, Real men do cry.. Nobody is saying that you blab every day..just sometimes, open the shell.
This is a curse, instilled from father to son through the generations.
Break the chain.
(, Wed 25 Jun 2008, 10:01, closed)
*Agrees*Crying is a waste of time and energy if you ask me. THough that does not mean I am above doing it from time to time. I would just rather not.
(, Wed 25 Jun 2008, 10:52, closed)
On being a manIts interesting that a couple of you state how crying is a natural emotional response. Can't argue that, but then again, humans are naturaly kill and rape machines, is that ok?
I'm not some stone wall who feels nothing, hell I'm a sucker for cute kittens and a firm beliver of love, I'm a fairly emotionaly stable guy.
Crying just isn't worth it in my eyes (ha!). Its easy enough to find emotional release without crying, laughing works better.
(, Wed 25 Jun 2008, 11:43, closed)
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