Yeah, Finster
How dare you casually joke about rape on a comedy forum...you'd have to be a total cunt to do that

www.b3ta.com/questions/footinmouthtwo/post1709518
b3ta.com/questions/houseguests/post1032283
www.b3ta.com/questions/professions/post737416
www.b3ta.com/questions/oldpeoplespeaktruths/post183295
( emvee cruor deo cruoris, Mon 28 Jan 2013, 12:32, 3 replies)

No lazy analogies there I'm afraid...
and taken out of context, they are all offensive . Taken in context the vast majority raised a grin, but one of them is really fucking stupid. He knows my views.

Well done for trying though. It would have been more effective if you'd found a post from me that trivialises it, because then you would have actually managed to prove me a hypocrite. As it is, all you really managed to do is make yourself look a bit weird by being obsessed by my husband whilst white knighting for a twat.

No really, well done.
( Wicca'd Witch needs ideas for a new sig on..., Mon 28 Jan 2013, 12:55, closed)

Let me see if I've got this right, 'cause, you know, misunderstanding and that
Some internet random describes being subject to parking fines (abstractly) as being 'financially raped' and you get your tent-sized knickers in a twist, but your husband repeatedly jokes about raping children on exactly the same messageboard and that's fine because of, you know, context.

Have I accurately summed up the situation?
( emvee cruor deo cruoris, Mon 28 Jan 2013, 14:34, closed)

No you've not.
Three out of the four posts you linked were taken out of context - and in context they are mildly amusing comments on the actions and utter lack of self-awareness made by the OPs in question - and they are not lazy analogies. They are not analogies at all.

The fourth one (the one you refer to) is fucking stupid. I think I was quite clear about that. He's sat in the room - I'm not going to have a domestic online just so you can have a little powerwank over it.

My point to the OP was that he didn't actually make a joke. It wasn't a joke. It was an off the cuff analogy that could have been made in a way that didn't include rape. It was lazy.

As I have said, if you want to prove me a hypocrite, provide evidence that I've used 'rape' as an analogy. I'd like to hope that I haven't. I've joked about my rape in the past, because that's how I dealt with the shit I went through. Without the humour, I'd still be a victim. However, I will go on record as saying that when it is done for a cheap laugh, it cheapens everyone involved. I'm not going to stop anyone from doing it, but I will say something when it is brought to my attention. Because I think the message bears repeating, especially considering the way society as a whole approaches the topic of rape and sexual assault. I'd like to think that nobody on here is thick enough to think that rape is ok - seriously, with the exception of a very, very small minority on here, I think most people agree that rape is Not A Good Thing.

There is a culture on b3ta, however - and the internet as a whole - where we lazily use the term 'rape'. People claiming that their facebook status has been 'fraped' is one of them. People on youtube who say they want to 'rape that girl's tits', or the insults that get thrown at online gamers (and it's mainly at women, it has to be said) where 11 year old kids tell you that they are going to hunt you down and gang rape you. It lessens the shock of something utterly, utterly inhumane - something that I wouldn't wish on anyone, ever.

At best it's lazy. At it's worst, it is something that can trigger traumatic flashbacks. I'm not saying it's impossible to make the subject of rape into a joke, it's just fucking difficult - and when a rape survivor tells you that he/she does not find the joke funny, then you need to examine the joke itself and ask yourself if there is a better way to make people laugh.

I'm sorry that you are so eager to have a dig at Badger that you miss the actual point being made, and thought it better to carry on with the playground bromance you and Badger have going on. As for my 'tent sized' knickers being in a twist...I wouldn't worry about that. I rarely wear any.
( Wicca'd Witch needs ideas for a new sig on..., Mon 28 Jan 2013, 19:19, closed)

I'm struggling to see the point being made
See, I did the same search I did on Badger on myself. I found that I referred to the "click for bigger" on an image I did in 2007 as "omg emvee raped my monitor sized" (it's sadly offline now but in my defence it was very, very big). There's one which you could totally take out of context should you want:
www.b3ta.com/questions/adverts/post700912

Other than that? There's one where I replied to Badger when he'd gone off on a tangent about raping postboxes, because that's a humorous analogy, obviously. There's one where I echoed back WaspBox's words after he joked about the laws of the Old Testament including not raping your neighbour's ass. There's one where I replied to some idiot who has "Its not rape if she cums first" as his signature and there's one where I'm literally describing the (disturbing) image posted. You could probably find more if you dig deeper, but in each case I limited myself to the first page of results.

Badger had a bunch of offhand references to raping children and babies. Just saying. That's not even including the phrases "Rob fingers kids" and "ringofyre fucks eight year olds", both of which he's fond of. If you think b3ta has a culture of rape humour that's unacceptable, then I'm not going to argue with you because it's not really a well that I plumb that often.

I just think that it's odd that you don't mind your husband joking about rape as in an actual "raping the kids" rape analogy on this messageboard on a weekly basis yet you take exception to someone using the word in a financial sense because as a rape survivor to you that's "unacceptable"?

I'm genuinely curious where you draw the line?
( emvee cruor deo cruoris, Mon 28 Jan 2013, 21:29, closed)

I must say I'm quite enjoying your increasingly frantic attempts to pretend to actually ignore the people you have on ignore.
b3ta.com/questions/selfimportant/post1844689
( Dr. Shambolic je suis charlie, Mon 28 Jan 2013, 21:34, closed)

Yeah ... I don't think link bingo is going to help you defend this prat.
Oh looksie ... first google ... www.b3ta.com/questions/adverts/post700912

The post in question is not a rape joke so a debate about the excusability of rape humour is entirely besides the point. The post is offensive because it hijacks the word "rape" - in its entirely conventional sense of a violent sexual violation - to exaggerate the seriousness of something trivial. It is using rape purely to sound edgy. It is utterly dickish and reprehensible.

I hope the only reason you've decided to wade in is because you're still butthurt by a few of the people who are attacking the poster rather than through any ridiculously misplaced belief that his post is worthy of being defended.
( Dr. Shambolic je suis charlie, Mon 28 Jan 2013, 20:30, closed)

I do apologise.
In future, I promise to have a flexible moral stance towards what constitutes acceptable humourous content to fit in with whatever the in crowd are saying.
(Finster Ate a cat biscuit for a bet, Mon 28 Jan 2013, 21:50, closed)

You're all right fella
She's just trying to throw her weight around
( emvee cruor deo cruoris, Mon 28 Jan 2013, 21:54, closed)

If I did that, you'd be dead by now.
You see, it's funny because I'm fat.
( Wicca'd Witch needs ideas for a new sig on..., Tue 29 Jan 2013, 18:21, closed)