I wouldn't go as far as to call it a lifestyle. Not at present, anyway.
My wife holds the key, it was her idea, she suggested it and it blew my mind. Just the thought of it was a huge turn on.
I've been predominantly dominant in my relationships prior to the one with my wife, but always felt more submissive. She will not entertain the sub role in any way, which is mostly fine for me, not that I have the choice.
She refers to it as 'her cock' and when not caged she will ask what I think I'm doing touching her cock, or I'll have my hands slapped.
I used to masturbate a fair amount. It had an effect on our sex life. Now when not locked, I hardly do. It's a selfish act.
(Louis Tully, Mon 21 May 2012, 21:57, 1 reply)

"It's a selfish act."
Of course it is - yet you seem to portray it in a bad light.

Hate to sound like the uncomfortable sex-ed teacher here but there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanking & anyone who says otherwise is more fucked up than any hairy-palmer you're ever likely to meet.

Excessive (make your own mind up on quotas) masturbation or excluding sex with your partner in favour of wanking ain't so good however - but to suggest that wanking is bad cause it's selfish is a bit like saying you shouldn't eat chocolate because it tastes good.
(Misery McUglywife an attention seeking sociopathic fuckstain., Mon 21 May 2012, 22:44, closed)

I think you know what I was saying.
Were I single I would wank more. In our relationship I was not sharing the build up of sexual desire, and that was selfish as it often deprived us both of enjoying it.
(Louis Tully, Mon 21 May 2012, 23:02, closed)