I agree with Gunther, a good shoeing is needed
However, as violence isn't a good option, my advice for what it's worth, is:

Don't wait for your dad to come round, it won't happen. Consider how many women live with wife-beaters, but when asked why don't they leave/prosecute, they say "oh, but I love him, I couldn't do that. He's very sorry afterwards etc."

You could wait until he becomes a pensioner, and then call in social services.

Or alternatively we can round up a posse and go rescue him, I'm sure plenty on here would sign up.

Don't turn your back on him because he isn't strong enough to deal with it. Think about if the roles were reversed, would he try to help you or give up on you?

A friend of mine lived with an insufferable bitch and was constantly abusive for 10 years. Myself and his brother repeatedly asked why he puts up with it, but he just used to ride it out, anything for an easy life.

Sorry if I sound a bit forward, but your tale has wound me up somewhat. Feel free to tell me to fuck right off, but to me, the only solution is to fight fire with fire.
( sandettie light vessel automatic New Twitter - @bollocksreally, Sat 11 Oct 2008, 16:59, 1 reply)

We've considered
many many options including your suggestions. I'd like to see her sectioned.

And I hear what you're saying.

But there are other people to consider too... they have two children between them. I don't want to be responsible for charging in and changing their lives too, not knowing if they would want it. I don't know if my dad would want it either.

And having been in the same situation myself, I know that regardless of how powerless I felt at times, and how much I wished for a saviour, nobody else could have changed it except me. And I'm glad nobody did, or I wouldn't now have the faith in myself and the strength that I got from it.

I'm not waiting for him to come round... I know he's too weak to change things, but it's still his decision, not mine. I can't take responsibility for his life.

I'm sorry to hear of your friend's situation... I hope he's found the courage to deal with it.

And no worries for your forwardness. I know how you feel.
( warmfuzzies Isn't here, Sat 11 Oct 2008, 17:29, closed)