The evil stepdad
Right then, I've alluded to this in many a post, but never actually given details.

My mum and dad divorced when I was nowt but a ickle 9 week old foetus. Well, there were actually 2 of us in the womb!

13 years later, she finally meets a guy who she thinks is wonderful. He really was a great guy, took us out for meals (we were poor), to the pantomime at Christmas etc. Then he married my mum.
The only reason he married her was because of me. Oh yes, he liked young teenage girls. He used to walk around with a condom in his pocket with my name written on the packet - literally. Mum always turned a blind eye.
She didn't want to acknowledge that he was in my room most nights watching me sleep (I'd pretend - I knew he was there).
When I was 20, I was back living at home, and mum was away visiting my twin.
Stepfather tried to kiss me, and when I yelled at him he tried strangling me - his excuse? "I've wanted to fuck you since you were 13, your mums not here!"

Of course, I told mum, she turned another blind eye until he tried strangling her because she wouldn't have sex with him 'cos he was drunk.

13 years on, I'm doing good - really good - for myself. He died 2 years ago, I went to his funeral and as much as I'd like to say how hard I laughed, I actually sobbed my socks off. It's taken almost 13 years for mum and I to work through our relationship, but fortunately we're doing good.
Real fortunate, as she has just been diagnosed with terminal lung cancer and has 6-12 months.

So, I basically had shitty parenting till I was 20 something - what kind of mother, really, turns a blind eye to obvious abuse of her kid?

But you know what? If it hadn't have happened, I wouldn't be here now, in Southern California instead of Hull, and wouldn't have the most wonderful husband. Don't sit down and be a victim, kiddies, stand up and live life!
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Mon 20 Aug 2007, 9:11, Reply)