My advice
I get the impression that to you, losing your virginity is not such a big deal and that you’re just shy.

Am I right in guessing that inside you, you don’t quite feel like the person you come out across as? That is, even though you consider yourself shy, you come across as being bubbly and lively and that you wonder if you can live up to the persona you project? If this is the case, it may explain why you usually don’t go beyond flirting, snogging, etc. as your real self kicks in at this time. I apologise if guessed wrong or if it offended you in any way. But if this is the case, I suggest that you just go with the flow once things get started.

If you decide to lose your V plates for the hell of it, I would suggest keeping quiet about it. If the person just wanted a one night stand or just wanted to be ‘friends with benefits’, he may be a bit worried that you might be taking things more seriously than you really are because he may get the impression that he’s that “someone special you’re saving yourself up for”. If on the other hand, you do end up in a serious relationship, I’d suggest you tell him – he’d feel flattered that you chose him if he wants a proper relationship.

And no, you’re not a freak. Your friends are telling the truth.

Oh, and don’t worry about posting it here. We’re all warm and cuddly. We don’t bite (except for a few trolls but you can ignore them).
( mistaspakkaman and the inedible shifting caterpillars, Fri 15 Aug 2008, 21:41, Reply)