This can only be a good thing
someone that is too shy about sex/trying new things/too self concious can be very off putting
you spend more time worrying about them than having fun and you know that they are too worried to be having fun
so it all becomes a bit pointless
( Giant bunny jumping out like a large happy tourettes rabbit, Fri 8 Apr 2005, 12:22, archived)

I agree it is good, I just surprised myself.
By and large I am a fairly quiet person and prone to being a bit shy; an effect I expected to be amplified by removing all my clothes in front of someone. It turns out that it is quite the opposite, I don't get self conscious at all so it is a good thing all round. And light bondage is ace.
( Nimble Colin camera-wrangling, globe-trotting whisky enthusiast, Fri 8 Apr 2005, 12:25, archived)

Aye it is
I'd recommend (to whatever degree you're comfortable with):

Eroto-asphyxiation (definitely this)
Candle wax
Blindfolds

My old g/f and I used to get a little carried away with a few things (cutting/power play etc) but it was all good :)
( Fenris temporary Lazarus, Fri 8 Apr 2005, 12:41, archived)

please stop
trying really hard not to think about things like this
*gnaws desk somemore*
( Giant bunny jumping out like a large happy tourettes rabbit, Fri 8 Apr 2005, 12:43, archived)

Blindfolds are good,
candelwax is in plentiful supply but I don't think she would be up for it and eroto-asphyxiation sounds interesting but she might not want to try that either.
( Nimble Colin camera-wrangling, globe-trotting whisky enthusiast, Fri 8 Apr 2005, 12:46, archived)