this.
I suspect when you need to ask the internet to make your social decisions for you, then it's time to reassess.
( the mighty badger Aphrodite, on a bar stool, by your side, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:45, archived)

There's a big fat element of 'this' here, too.

( Newington, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:51, archived)