I have been asked to go to the cinema tonight
By a boy I don't really like, but I won't have to pay. Should I do it?

I like him as a friend, just not in a sexy way.

Edit: Wow you all have morals!
( Pickle Fairy is clumsily dancing away this fear, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:40, archived)

If you are a whore, yes.

(bogus official shove it up your cunt, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:41, archived)

I do like free things

( Pickle Fairy is clumsily dancing away this fear, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:42, archived)

So do I
But I don't go about robbing them or deceiving people to get them
(bogus official shove it up your cunt, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:44, archived)

This is why you don't get many free things.

( Bud Muhnquai Update your profile or fuck off, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:46, archived)

but he does get to slap chavs and small children daily
and get paid for it
( Enigmatic ™                 Voice No More                  ©, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:47, archived)

I do it for free.
It's a labour of love.
( Bud Muhnquai Update your profile or fuck off, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:48, archived)

This is true
Great joy
(bogus official shove it up your cunt, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:51, archived)

Yeah, string him along
boys love that.
( WormuIus, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:41, archived)

Get him to buy your some nice dresses and a big engagement ring afterwards

( WormuIus, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:43, archived)

marry him, steal his used condoms and rub them into your womb before all the spunks die

( WormuIus, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:43, archived)

then steal his children as well.

( WormuIus, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:43, archived)

If you're lucky, you might get a house and car.

( WormuIus, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:44, archived)

I really don't want his children

( Pickle Fairy is clumsily dancing away this fear, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:44, archived)

But they're free!

( WormuIus, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:47, archived)

Children are NEVER free

(Dangermouse., Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:50, archived)

agreed =(

( Stoopiduk is the waterboatman., Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:51, archived)

For fuck's sake.
He's asked her if she wants to go to the cinema. It's not a contract for sex.
( Newington, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:44, archived)

Why spend time with someone you don't like?

( mike woz ere 7442200 & 7696970 getter, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:45, archived)

Because you're married to them

( Donkey Gums @mattcomedy, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:46, archived)

pfft

( Enigmatic ™                 Voice No More                  ©, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:48, archived)

haha

( SickRik float like a camembert sting like a brie, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:48, archived)

Hello RiK
people keep accusing me of being like you again.

I take is as a compliment.
( WormuIus, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:49, archived)

You are both equally tedious.
However, I have to say I prefer Wormulus, as his colouring is natural and not applied with a trowel.
( Bud Muhnquai Update your profile or fuck off, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:51, archived)

SickRik is twice the man I am.
*insert cock length joke here*
( WormuIus, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:54, archived)

Twice the man, half the human.

( Bud Muhnquai Update your profile or fuck off, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:56, archived)

real life lol :D

( WormuIus, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:59, archived)

I LOVE YOU REALLY.

( Bud Muhnquai Update your profile or fuck off, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 13:00, archived)

rofl

( Moon Girl Technologies horrendous beanbag, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:50, archived)

there's a soution to that though.
Fling her cheating arse out onto the pavement
(Dangermouse., Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:51, archived)

So why didn't you do that then?
Sorry she too fat for you to do that:)
(VodkaCoke, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:53, archived)

couldn't afford the crane :(

(Dangermouse., Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:58, archived)

Ha Ha I love this reply:)
Hope she sees this post.
(VodkaCoke, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 13:00, archived)

FUCKING IS!
I usually make them sign a contract saying

"If you accept this ticket you will be recieving my penis with the next 28 days"
( Donkey Gums @mattcomedy, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:46, archived)

nope
but the basic unspoken subtext is "I'm not telling him OUTRIGHT that I'm not in the slightest bit interested in him as anything other than a friend, because if I do that, he won't pay for my ticket as he's clinging onto the hope that at some point in the future I may let him stick his winky in me"
( the mighty badger Aphrodite, on a bar stool, by your side, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:47, archived)

Serves him right
for thinking he can buy her.
( Newington, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:51, archived)

No, that's not really how things work
for instance, where do you decide that he's buying her, rather than her selling herself?
( the mighty badger Aphrodite, on a bar stool, by your side, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:54, archived)

I didn't decide that.
The implication that going to the cinema is an agreement to mutual molestation is exactly what I'm deliberately ignoring. Because it's quite, quite shitty.

She gets to watch a film, he pays nothing more than he's offered, and if he's expected that implication to be true, he has a chance of learning a lesson into the bargain.
( Newington, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:57, archived)

Such as
That he would have been better off inviting some cheap tart who did put out for cinema tickets.
( Lord Gnome, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:59, archived)

This is sadly more likely.
But there's such a thing as the benefit of the doubt.
( Newington, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 13:02, archived)

Paying for a girl's night out isn't trying to buy her.
It's perfectly normal courting procedure. Whether you personally think it's right and proper or not is completely irrelevant.
( Moon Girl Technologies horrendous beanbag, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 13:02, archived)

If that's normality, madam, then normality is an ass!

( Newington, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 13:03, archived)

Well we know that already.

( Moon Girl Technologies horrendous beanbag, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 13:04, archived)

Yes it is normality
And it's a normality that is reflected in the original post, otherwise she wouldn't have asked nor made the edit concerning morals when pretty much everyone replied with that version of normality in mind.
( Lord Gnome, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 13:07, archived)

And that's the nail hit firmly on the head
It's courting procedure.
( Lord Gnome, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 13:04, archived)

we're not saying that.
I think you've missed the relevant point (which was, being fair, hidden under LOLb3tashaggingrubbish). I'm sure he's not expecting to fuck her tonight, only that she might be interested in her romantically.

the point being: He's asked her out on what he assumes is a date. If she goes, and goes without making it clear that it's not, then she's misleading him. the fact that he's paying is neither here nor there, except that she's taking advantage of his unreciprocated feelings to get a free cinema ticket

I don't know what form of logic you're using here to suggest that he needs to "learn a lesson" but the only person behaving a little badly here is her.
( the mighty badger Aphrodite, on a bar stool, by your side, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 13:03, archived)

you have to pay boyfriends normally?

( Enigmatic ™                 Voice No More                  ©, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:41, archived)

For my ticket silly

( Pickle Fairy is clumsily dancing away this fear, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:42, archived)

No.
He will think you like him and ask again, and you will run out of excuses.
( Bob Todd whee, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:41, archived)

Why should she need excuses?

( Newington, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:45, archived)

Are you really asking?
Or are you looking for an opportunity to put forward an opinion through argument?
( WormuIus, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:51, archived)

Just for the record, I'm not really asking.
I'm just acusing you of being a bit of a gimp.
( WormuIus, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:52, archived)

isn't that generally how conversations work?

( glued eel /questions/questionsyoudliketoask/post1648081, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:52, archived)

Conversations with Newington on b3ta, yes.

( WormuIus, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:55, archived)

It IS an opinion.
It's called a rhetorical question and is usually covered in about year five of primary school.
When he asks her if she wants to do something, she should answer "yes" if she wants to do it, and "no" if she doesn't. Excuses are for the weak.
( Newington, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:54, archived)

Ah!
This is where you've got me. I've never heard of rhetorical questions.

'Excuses are for the weak' was the bit I was waiting for though.
( WormuIus, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:57, archived)

It's quite a simplistic view, though.
It could be that he is simply asking a friend to go to the cinema, but there is an implied subtext of canoodling, and her acceptance could be construed as encouraging his canoodling hopes, despite canoodling being actively written out of her plans.
And since she knows that the subtext is possibly there, if she does nothing to address it it isn't entirely his fault if he assumes that he might get some canoodling.
( Comma, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:59, archived)

A rhetorical question, eh?

( Moon Girl Technologies horrendous beanbag, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 13:10, archived)

String him along.
He might even buy you a McDonalds after, if you're lucky.
( Malaka omdz, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:41, archived)

What's the film?
Plus: he may have fit mates.
(Eeh Blah Gum, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:41, archived)

Kill yourself
Wait no that wasnt an option sorry
( Koba http://sexycooladventures.blogspot.com/, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:42, archived)

and your parents

( WormuIus, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:42, archived)

No, that's not fair to give him false hope.

( Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:42, archived)

If you can't decide for yourself you may as well go, and then marry him after
because it'll save all those difficult decisions in the future too
( glued eel /questions/questionsyoudliketoask/post1648081, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:42, archived)

this.
I suspect when you need to ask the internet to make your social decisions for you, then it's time to reassess.
( the mighty badger Aphrodite, on a bar stool, by your side, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:45, archived)

There's a big fat element of 'this' here, too.

( Newington, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:51, archived)

Well, no.
Morning all.
( LimeyTreat Bitch. Lover. Child. Mother. Sinner. Saint., Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:42, archived)

No.

( Maffers I flow kinda strange like Spina Bifida footprints, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:43, archived)

Yes, go
then crush him afterwards with horrible words.
( Stoopiduk is the waterboatman., Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:43, archived)

I like this plan

( Pickle Fairy is clumsily dancing away this fear, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:44, archived)

Better still
give him a link to this thread, he'll feel terrible when he reads it.
( Stoopiduk is the waterboatman., Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:47, archived)

Only if you're going to have fleeting, disappointing drunken sex with him afterwards.

( Bud Muhnquai Update your profile or fuck off, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:43, archived)

Well this is a no brainer.
Don't go.
( Blue Star was working part time at the 5 and Dime, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:43, archived)

"Shall I go out with someone I don't fancy and feel nothing for, who isn't really even a friend?"
Once again, asking b3ta to guide your life registers a FAT ONE on the FAIL meter.
( Bud Muhnquai Update your profile or fuck off, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:45, archived)

Won't his dog get in the way a bit?

( Noit happy baby orangutan, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:43, archived)

ARF

( WormuIus, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:44, archived)

And HOO FUCKING RAH I've managed to make Ubuntu play a DVD.
I might grow a beard in celebration.
( Noit happy baby orangutan, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:45, archived)

I firmly intend to install Ubuntu on my PS3, for jolly japery.

( Bud Muhnquai Update your profile or fuck off, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:52, archived)

Depends on how fit he is really.
Also what is the film?Is he going to take you out for a meal afterwards?
(VodkaCoke, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:44, archived)

I'm not sure what film yet
This might be a big factor in my decision.
( Pickle Fairy is clumsily dancing away this fear, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:46, archived)

Look to see what's on and choose something worth seeing.

(VodkaCoke, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:47, archived)

I like your thinking

( Pickle Fairy is clumsily dancing away this fear, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:50, archived)

Good,so do I :)
Then tell him you are hungry so he takes you to a posh restaurant.Tell him you will only turn up if he buys you flowers too.:)
(VodkaCoke, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:52, archived)

Do you think you could grow to like him if you spent some time together?

( Comma, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:45, archived)

It'd be in vain, he's only doing it for a dare anyway.

( Noit happy baby orangutan, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:45, archived)

You're basically asking her to check how big his willy is, aren't you?

( Bud Muhnquai Update your profile or fuck off, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:46, archived)

Not in a sexy way

( Pickle Fairy is clumsily dancing away this fear, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:46, archived)

Then maybe if you do go out you should make sure he knows it's just as friends.

( Comma, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:48, archived)

but could you do better?
No offence intended, it's just you, well, might be a troll.
( Stoopiduk is the waterboatman., Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:50, archived)

you he time together some more money on you.
( Undulating Tentacles of Love getting fun down to acceptable levels, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:48, archived)

no. just say NO.
it's easy if you try
(Dangermouse., Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:46, archived)

Just say
NO (Grange hill) lol
(VodkaCoke, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:48, archived)

*Zammo high-five*


*snorts coke*

*collapses in locker room*
(Dangermouse., Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:52, archived)

We are showing our age now :(

(VodkaCoke, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:54, archived)

You lost several point for this post.

( mike woz ere 7442200 & 7696970 getter, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:46, archived)

I know

( Pickle Fairy is clumsily dancing away this fear, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:47, archived)

Tell him you'll go
But only if your boyfriend can come too.
( shitshitshitshit x_x, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:46, archived)

Oooh that's actually mean
I already told him I won't sleep with him.
( Pickle Fairy is clumsily dancing away this fear, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:47, archived)

And he still wanted to go?
I smell a date-rape.
( shitshitshitshit x_x, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:48, archived)

Justice.

( Stoopiduk is the waterboatman., Wed 27 Aug 2008, 13:05, archived)

Why not?
You might even get a shag out of it.
( Lord Gnome, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:46, archived)

Yes, but spend half the time texting a boy you do like, so he doesn't get any other funny ideas.
And then at the end of it, when he walks you to the door, give him a peek on the cheek and say "Thank you for a lovely evening, I'm glad that we can be friends."... and walk away before he says anything.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:47, archived)

Whoa
I mean... Whoa.
( Stoopiduk is the waterboatman., Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:48, archived)

Hehe

( Pickle Fairy is clumsily dancing away this fear, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:50, archived)

This happens to you a lot, doesn't it?

( Bud Muhnquai Update your profile or fuck off, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:50, archived)

If you want to go to the cinema, yes.
If he thinks that's a promise of something else, that's his problem.

Edit: morals? No. You've no moral obligation to shag people for cinema tickets.
( Newington, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:50, archived)

Of course it's not a promise,
but depending on the way he asked, an acceptance might carry with it a certain implication.
( Moon Girl Technologies horrendous beanbag, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:52, archived)

I rarely agree with you
But right now I am very much liking your thinking.
( Pickle Fairy is clumsily dancing away this fear, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:52, archived)

You're only saying that because he's the one saying you get free cinema tickets.

( Noit happy baby orangutan, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:56, archived)

it's only his problem
if she's made it absolutely clear that nothing else is on the cards now or at any point in the future, though.
( the mighty badger Aphrodite, on a bar stool, by your side, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:52, archived)

That's fucked up, man, fucked up.
Why should she have to make that clear? Why should he be assuming a right to her unless she explicitly tells him otherwise?
( Newington, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:59, archived)

because she knows that he's trying to "court" her
for want of a better word.

she's the one in possession of all the facts. He only knows that he's interested in her romantically. She knows that, plus the fact that's she's not. So she's the one guilty of deception if she accepts his offer under false pretences.

We're not saying this applies to ALL circumstances where one person meets another in a social situation. But it certainly applies to THIS situation.
( the mighty badger Aphrodite, on a bar stool, by your side, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 13:10, archived)

Depends, has he offered to hold your hand & take you for Chinese food afterwards?

( broadsword, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:50, archived)

Pfft!

( Lord Gnome, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:53, archived)

ask him if you can bring another friend along as well.
that ought to make sure he doesn't get the wrong idea. Even if you don't bring anyone else afterall.
( Moon Girl Technologies horrendous beanbag, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:53, archived)

This is a good idea
Bring a really pretty but single friend. Then sit them together and sit on the other side of her.

Perfect solution.
( Lord Gnome, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:55, archived)

But then he might think she's an idiot who can't do anything on her own.
such as make a simple decision.
( Stoopiduk is the waterboatman., Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:56, archived)

no, she's still making the same decision,
in fact she's being assertive and making another decision as well.
Also it's quite common for people to go to the cinema not on their own.
( Moon Girl Technologies horrendous beanbag, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 12:58, archived)

What are youi doing?
SHE'S THE BAD GUY!
( Stoopiduk is the waterboatman., Wed 27 Aug 2008, 13:03, archived)

Hell no, go for the free ticket

( Mykeyboy A massive, salty filing cabinet, Wed 27 Aug 2008, 13:03, archived)