Why ask us a question like that in the header
only to completely contradict it in the second line?
( Grrrmachine the indifference engine, Mon 22 Jun 2009, 18:49, archived)

it is a good thing for me
why would it be bad?
(Just Harry What should I put here?, Mon 22 Jun 2009, 18:50, archived)

Can I ask what the reasoning behind this decision was?

( Grrrmachine the indifference engine, Mon 22 Jun 2009, 18:56, archived)

you may
i love her and i want to spend my life with her, whilst getting married does not guarantee this will happen and isn't required i want to marry her and is there somehting wrong with wanting to get married nowadays?
(Just Harry What should I put here?, Mon 22 Jun 2009, 19:04, archived)

There's always been something wrong with marriage
partially from the fact that love and marriage have no relation to eachother in any way whatsoever.
( Grrrmachine the indifference engine, Mon 22 Jun 2009, 19:07, archived)

i suppose i'd agree with you to some degree
but i want to marry her and not just for the sake of it
(Just Harry What should I put here?, Mon 22 Jun 2009, 19:12, archived)

so what are your genuine reasons
other than "because I want to" which means "for the sake of it."
( Grrrmachine the indifference engine, Mon 22 Jun 2009, 19:16, archived)