Be careful
Heroine turns the nicest of people in to shit bags.

Getting clean is a hard, difficult and exhausting process to guide someone through. It wont be easy, but it can be done. If the addiction is serious, the best place may be Rehab.

Be very careful, addiction can over come even the most precious of relationships. Some times your love is not enough to help them.

Good luck and hugs.
( Rev. Jayneflakes Buy my book, I need the cash for drugs and hookers, Sun 21 Dec 2008, 18:42, 1 reply)

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Thank you my darling, hugs accepted with a great deal of appreciation. My flatmates are all away and I really need hugs today. The only person around to give them to me being the boy in question, who I have just been to visit and furnished with peppermint tea and Berocca and DVDs and lots of other nice soothing things on the offchance that they might make him fractionally more comfortable over the hellish time he's got coming up.

The thing that makes it difficult is that, save for his dealer and one friend who has left the country permanently, I am the only person who knows. Which is so strange when I'm around friends he's had for years who live and work with him and yet have no idea.

At the moment I'm just confused, going from accepting and supportive last night to conviction that I would have to break up with him immediately this morning, to just being a bit sad this evening. I think I've decided to support him for the time being, as long as it doesn't start to impact too heavily on me.

Curiously enough, talking to strangers on the internet is helping so much.

Thank you all for listening :)
(clumsyeloquence is a girl, Sun 21 Dec 2008, 19:11, closed)

Well good luck and be careful.
feel free to drop me a pm if you ever want to let off steam.

I was in a relationship with a substance addict for a few years and I can empathise with how it feels.
( Rev. Jayneflakes Buy my book, I need the cash for drugs and hookers, Sun 21 Dec 2008, 19:21, closed)

word of advice
if he doesn't stop, leave.

it'll be for the best for both of you as a) you'll be out of there and you don't deserve to suffer for it and b) it might give him the kick up the arse that he needs.

Good luck with it, and happy christmas :)
(MrChimp previously Monsieur, Sun 21 Dec 2008, 23:45, closed)

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I fully intend to. I have no other possible option.

I really appreciate everyone's words of advice and good luck on here, I think I need as much of both as I can get and it's so good to have people to talk to about it.

Thank you :)
(clumsyeloquence is a girl, Mon 22 Dec 2008, 11:10, closed)