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I had one ex who flat-out denied ever moving any of my stuff, yet when we moved out I found a big plastic crate in the cupboard under the stairs filled with all the things she'd taken off my desk because they "looked untidy". Like, for example, three phone chargers. For the phone I was using. Which I could never find a charger for.

It's probably just as well we broke up, I would have been an absolute gibbering mess otherwise.
( emvee cruor deo cruoris, Wed 11 Jan 2012, 9:46, 1 reply)

^ to this,
the "looked untidy" when i`m doing my tax return in my box room office, this is not shared space, this where I keep the biz ticking over, it is bloody obvious what I`m doing. I`ve got too much work to sort out the dogs dinner you made of my files and get it in on time now, hello £100 penalty fine.

It is the denial over that and the rest of the behaviours that was impossible to cope with. " Yes I did, I`m sorry", would at least have been a start, not "No it must have been you". If there is no ownership of actions, there can be no discussion, no start of forgiveness and no healing.
If you screw up a promise than you admit it, and knowing you messed up you are not happy with yourself so the wronged one doesn`t have to pile it on in addition (some do though)

If someone is obsessive and everything has to have a place at least it is usually consistent and you can find things.
(tootired Is searching for a funny sig, nothing good so far, Wed 11 Jan 2012, 11:41, closed)