oh (top) bollocks!
Fuck it I'll ask here and see if I get a better response? and it does sort of mention the QOTW and it is Wednesday....!

Anyway, I met this woman a few weeks back, she's 3yrs older than me and ace in every way except the fact that she's just not my type, she's got massive jugs though, not that that's a factor in it at all cause I've no idea what to do with them as explained in an earlier post, (36DD's if you're interested).

As I was saying before I got distracted, we get on really well and talk for hours about shit in general, she likes all the same stuff as me, loves a few beers etc, but can you be with someone you don't really fancy or can you get past that? never had to before, can someone be this shallow?

Nice tits though!

(yes I'm expecting the usual sort of replies, twats!)
(Kip, Wed 12 May 2010, 19:45, 13 replies)

hmmmm
I was with a girl i didnt really fancy. But got on well. She was pretty cool in bed. Awesome cook. I miss her cooking. My god she made good food. Used to love sitting out on the terrace with her having wine and a nice meal.

But I just didnt fancy her. Just couldnt connect, didnt have that drive. I ended up being a really bad boyfriend. She rang me to say she was in A&E coz she put her back out. i replied "oh ok let me know how you get on" i mean if it had been someone i really really liked id have been down there in a shot and its what she was expecting.. But i just couldnt be arsed.

Anyway relationship didnt last long. few months.

So yeah. if theres nothing else in the pipeline mate. i'd have a flutter.
(Miggyman, Wed 12 May 2010, 19:53, closed)

there is hopefully someone in the pipeline
i've somehow managed to get www.b3ta.com/questions/letterstheywillneverread/post655627 talking to me again so who knows.
(Kip, Thu 13 May 2010, 11:29, closed)

I guess you could give it a go
but from experience, like Miggyman said, you get on for a while, sex is good but eventually you fall apart because that spark just isn't there. You might be better off just being friends. Or friends with benefits ;)
(Petite chien is going to do science to it, Wed 12 May 2010, 19:56, closed)

Try FWB.
I've tried to make a relationship work with a woman that I liked but had no "spark" with. It ended badly. But FWB can work if you're both open about what you do and don't expect out of it.

But if it starts getting awkward and weird, don't hesitate to end the sexual part of it before someone gets hurt. Better to go without than alienate a friend.
( Wanderer, Wed 12 May 2010, 20:03, closed)

I kinda got the opposite sense from the other replies
that you like her as a friend, but aren't sexually attracted in which case stay Friends Without Benefits.

I'm all for being friends and having a lot in common with the person you're with. I don't think you can have a proper relationship without that. However if you are entirely unattracted to them, it's not going to work.

However I have noticed that the more you like someone, the more attractive they become in your eyes, so maybe that'll start to happen
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 12 May 2010, 20:38, closed)

Despite my flippant suggestion
I do really agree with this. You could have a lifelong great friend on the cards, may be worth not spoiling. Maybe just give it some time and see what happens :)
(Petite chien is going to do science to it, Wed 12 May 2010, 21:00, closed)

Stop being such a bloody girl
Smash her back doors in, then make up your mind
(Bret Mong Keys Eggs has wet his weapon, Wed 12 May 2010, 21:40, closed)

^this was the sort of reply I was expecting.
haha
(Kip, Thu 13 May 2010, 10:55, closed)

If there isn't that really sexy spark there
...then just stay friends. She might say she's up for some no-strings sex but she'll still wind up getting hurt. To paraphrase the great Dan Savage, golden rule of relationships is to ensure that you leave the person in a better state than you found them.

Or you could just fuck her then chuck her. Look - I even changed my board sig for you!
(Happybara The jungle came alive and took him, Thu 13 May 2010, 10:15, closed)

yay. Thanks!
:-)
(Kip, Thu 13 May 2010, 10:53, closed)

I wasn't immediately keen on mine when we first met...
but she was very insistant so I rolled with it. We're getting wed next year and I can't imagine life without her now.

So the answer from my perspective is go for it but keep an open mind.

Eject Eject [><]
(AndyC4m Eject Eject [><], Thu 13 May 2010, 10:22, closed)

Nooo! Run, Andy, run!
Mark my words. By 2020 this power imbalance will have re-emerged in the relationship to the point where nothing you do is good enough.
(Happybara The jungle came alive and took him, Thu 13 May 2010, 10:44, closed)

wow
thanks for all the suggestions guys and girls. Really thought i'd set myself up for a flaming there, suppose there's still time for AB to turn up.
Think i'm just gonna go for the 'just friends' one, i've tried fwb before and 1 party always gets too involved. I lost a really good friend too. :-(
Thanks again.
(Kip, Thu 13 May 2010, 11:00, closed)