even on my most autistic of days i engage with people in conversation and allsorts, isn't life amazing.
maybe it's just cos i actually care about people, or whatever, but when i ask a question in conversation or whenever, then it's because i want to hear the answer.
cos i'm interested.
why else?
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Mon 16 May 2011, 13:14, 1 reply)

So if you were to ask somebody if they had any kids
you think it's perfectly reasonable for that person to deliberately try and make you uncomfortable by saying "No, I have no children, they are dead and we are having real problems conceiving"

Rather than just tempering it slightly to say "No" and then maybe steer the conversation away slightly.
(Bazongaloid, Mon 16 May 2011, 13:17, closed)

i wouldnt be surprised or shocked if that happened, the emotional strain involved is incredible.
it brings out all sorts of reactions, traumatised people do all sorts of crazy shit.
i wouldn't let it get in the way, though.
surely just because someone has been damaged by something horrible doesn't mean they're not entitled to be treat with a degree of normality?
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Mon 16 May 2011, 13:34, closed)

Bollocks.
If upwards of a third of couples, including me, can manage to cope with miscarriage without turning into obnoxious anti-social fucking mentals then why can't we expect this poster to manage it?
( Dr. Shambolic je suis charlie, Mon 16 May 2011, 15:05, closed)

I don't consider the op to be an obnoxious anti-social fucking mental.
Pots, kettles and blackness.
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Mon 16 May 2011, 15:19, closed)

they are certainly leaning in that direction.
it's a perfectly reasonable question to be asked although in my experience one that is never required because people with kids are so fucking keen to tell everyone about them.

in fact, that's going to be my response in future
"do you have kids?"
"if I did you'd know about it, because I'd have bored the shit out of you about them by now"
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 16 May 2011, 15:25, closed)

One of mine did a poo this morning.
Would you like me to describe it?
( Dr. Shambolic je suis charlie, Mon 16 May 2011, 15:30, closed)

naa, I'm good

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 16 May 2011, 15:34, closed)

HA! I'm going to describe it anyway because this is apparently the prerogative of parents.
[insert poo description with pictures and sound effects here]
( Dr. Shambolic je suis charlie, Mon 16 May 2011, 15:38, closed)

SONOFABITCH

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 16 May 2011, 15:45, closed)

That was one of the sound effects.

( Dr. Shambolic je suis charlie, Mon 16 May 2011, 15:50, closed)

I hope this is true

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 16 May 2011, 15:55, closed)

This. Oh lordy this.

( Wicca'd Witch needs ideas for a new sig on..., Mon 16 May 2011, 21:06, closed)

The first response in the OP is the usual response
I felt it concise, objective, and usually stops further talk of "don't leave it too lates" and "why nots".
Someone in that conversation is always going to feel uncomfortable, huh? And if its 10 seconds of awkwardness and a changed topic, so be it, better than me going home bawling my eyes out again because someone hasn't known when to leave it alone.
(maggotriddendirtbox fast, feral and sharp as a tack since, Tue 17 May 2011, 6:34, closed)