I'm afraid I'm with Dr Shambolic
and althegeordie on his one. It's inappropriate to expect strangers to have an innate knowledge of what questions are not right. For someone in their late thirties, children is obviously a possibility. You're deliberately choosing to make strangers uncomfortable, by making your very personal grief public.

What's wrong with a non-commital 'none yet, but we're hoping' or 'no luck so far, but fingers crossed.' If you say it in a final tone, that's conversation finished in that direction. Now you can ask them how they are, even though they lost their job last week, and the bank has told them they might lose the house, and the last fucking thing they want to talk about is how they are.
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Mon 16 May 2011, 13:28, 2 replies)

I'm suspecting that she might have just engineered her response so that she can share her experience
and I'm sure it's been pretty shit for her.
I think really she knows it's the situation and not people asking an innocent question who are at fault.
She'd be better just coming on OT and telling us all about it. There'd be no need for the cloak of QOTW then.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Mon 16 May 2011, 13:31, closed)

Cloak of QOTW?
Off topic scares me. This is the first and last time I post (anything not made-up) here.
To be honest I did think twice about posting this, but its that rare I actually think of anything that fits the weekly topic, so I went for it.
Guess its showed me I'm not in as good a place as I thought with this
(maggotriddendirtbox fast, feral and sharp as a tack since, Tue 17 May 2011, 7:04, closed)

my 'very personal grief' has been
grieved, er, personally. This isn't grief.
This is potentially the way this is going to be for us, and I'm getting used to it. And maybe this isn't the place, but whats with that cultural norm of grief being all squashed away out of sight? Put on the happy face at all times?
As I mentioned above, this was kept VERY personal, yeah there may have been a few public tears in response to some stupid comments, but I pretty much hibernated through the worst of this
(maggotriddendirtbox fast, feral and sharp as a tack since, Tue 17 May 2011, 7:02, closed)

There's a reason we don't share stuff with strangers
a) those strangers don't want to know
b) those strangers might not react the way you want or think they should (see this thread)

It is grief. As you said above, you might not be dealing with it as well as you thought you were. In which case you have family, friends and medical professionals to share with. It's called boundaries. Polite society has them for a reason
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Thu 19 May 2011, 3:05, closed)

Polite society?
ok
(maggotriddendirtbox fast, feral and sharp as a tack since, Thu 19 May 2011, 11:40, closed)