Not looking forward to this.
In the next week or so, I shall be meeting up with what were my best friends in high school.

They stayed in that hell hole for sixth form, whereas I got out as soon as possible and went to a fantastic college, a fact they were not happy about.
They turn sulky and quiet every time I mention said college, so I've given up talking about it, any of the friends I have now, or my life without them in general.
On the other hand, all they want to talk about is the hellish high school, so I'm going to have to spend several hours pretending to give a baboons ass crack about said high school, purely for the sake of conversation.

The things I do for a friendship in a cardiac arrest.
I'm also going to have to pretend that the fact that they disapprove of everything I do - which they will make no attempt to conceal - (my boyfriend, the fact that I'm now wiccan, my modeling etc.) doesn't make me want to throttle them.

Don't get me wrong, they were brilliant friends, and I would like to keep in touch, but their new found attitude towards me makes it very hard.

Length? About four hours, depending on how long it takes before I snap.
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Fri 11 Jul 2008, 17:21, 8 replies)

They don't sound
like good friends to me. Not at all.
( Kroney, Fri 11 Jul 2008, 17:39, closed)

There's no law that says you have to stay friends.
People change, grow up, want different things and grow apart.
Friendships that last for years are amazing and I'm still in touch with a lot of people I met years ago.
But, there are people I would have considered extremely close friends when I was growing up who I have very little or nothing to do with now. We're simply just different people.
Don't feel you have to be mates with anyone. You don't owe them anything.
( wanderlust, Fri 11 Jul 2008, 17:53, closed)

What ^^ she said
I'm in touch with hardly anyone I went to school with, but the people I met on my first at uni are still my best friends ten years on.

Sorry wanderlust, referring to you as "she" looks very rude, I do apologise.
(Bazongaloid, Fri 11 Jul 2008, 18:18, closed)

Errrrrrrgh
There is a quote I read somewhere which I will now proceed to misquote to you: something about how everyone never actually wants you to succeed, they are always waiting for you to fall flat on your ass. It doesn't matter if they are your parents, family, friends, husband/wife, etc, everyone is always secretly happy when you fail. It sounds like you are doing better than they are and as a result they act that way. You can actually measure your success by how many people hate you. I feel bad for you, as it is really hard for me to talk about high school -- best time of your life my ass, high school was the absolute WORST point of my life so far. I don't even have any yearbooks and only talk to a couple of people from that period of time. My advice: get drunk. Get very drunk.
(BrainSurgerysFun, Fri 11 Jul 2008, 18:46, closed)

If they
...don't respect you for who you are, then don't bother going. You're better off without them in my opinion.
( Turquoise Hexagon Sun has just dropped acid on, Fri 11 Jul 2008, 18:49, closed)

What do they approve of?
Sounds like they're rather jealous.
( FeralCatMan Unusual disease collector., Fri 11 Jul 2008, 21:49, closed)

This is
only the fourth time I've seen them since September, which is more than enough.
You're all completely right, I know. I really need to sever ties. But I sort of feel obliged, I can't outright tell them I don't want to see them anymore.

On the other hand, there's another group of my old, all male, friends, (we were all geeks and nerds together) who still love me and who I still love and invite me out with them everywhere they go and we all have a fantastic time, so it isn't just me.
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Sat 12 Jul 2008, 11:52, closed)

I left
one of the top schools in england halfway through A levels, because I was fed up of fulfilling all my assessment objectives rather than actually being taught a subject I had a passion for. All my so called friends couldn't understand what the hell I was doing, and broke contact with me. Now I laugh as they apply for MAs because they can't break out of the education cycle, and they haven't got a sodding clue what they want from their lives, while I earn money doing what I enjoy.

You are no longer part of what fits into their narrow minded idea of the "right" course of action, and disapproval is that much easier than trying to understand. They'll continue in the same fashion until they die, whilst you might actually have a shot at doing what it is you want to do, and make a mark on the world.

Good luck to you pickle xx
( Madam Marlboro wonders if you've found her yet, Mon 14 Jul 2008, 20:03, closed)