Agnostic's Life
Bit of a long un, so I’ll apologise in advance.

Last year, I was in a comfortable relationship with a girl we shall call C. Been together for over a year and a half, but then things started going wrong. I used to get really annoyed that she never came out, all she did was complain, and then get in a mood when I complained.

Eventually, enough became enough, and we split at the start of September 2007. It was at this point the truth started to become clear.

The reason she never came out, is that I never invited her out.
The reason she seemed to always complain, is because I rarely listened (something I still do now)
The reason she used to get upset when I complained, is that by the end it seemed to be all I did.

In short, it was my fault that the relationship ended.

About a month and a half previous to these events, my best friend had moved to live in my parents house with me, while we finished organising, and we waited for the house to be ready. During this time, my relationship with my girlfriend became very one-sided. I never made the effort to call her or text her anymore, we’d only see each other at most 2 times a week, when we only lived 10 minutes walk away from one another. My reasoning for this was that “I’m spending time with David, sorry.” That was my answer almost every day, even when he wasn’t there (Don’t ask why, I still don’t know).

I was under stress at the time, but it’s no excuse (Was lining up to get my first house away from my parents)

At this time, an old internet friend of hers started to flirt with her again, it wasn’t something that ever bothered me, he lived in America, and didn’t stand a chance with her. However, there was one major difference between me and him. He was there for her, I wasn’t. I only found out that they were talking again through a mutual friend who didn’t want us to split.

When I heard, I decided to take a chance, and went up to her house with a bunch of flowers, to try to show that I could still be a good boyfriend. For that day, I was. However, the next day, things just went back to the way they were before.

We lasted just shy of another 3 weeks, which made things a little difficult as we were organising a panto together, which was uncomfortable for a while.

However, the worst part was when, only 3 weeks after splitting up (and still regularly speaking as friends) she asks whether I think it’s too soon for her to move on. I decide to do the best thing, and tell her that as long as she’s happy, that’s the most important thing. I find out the next day that she has a new boyfriend, and (without trying to sound too melodramatic) my world fell apart.

For the first time in nearly two years, I became pretty damn depressed. I made it worse by convincing myself that she was only doing this as a rebound from me, and that if I asked, she’d take me back.

Didn’t work. Crashed and burned. Only thing that saved my sanity that day was a mate who was the only one who actually recognised how I felt, and took me for a 3 hour pint and chat. Not once did we talk about her.

I then had to face the two of them every week, as he was also involved in the pantomime. They were never cruel, never rubbed it in my face, and were always polite enough to not be as couply as they’d like while I was there.

After a couple of weeks, I make the active decision to put myself out there again. Found a girl who made me laugh, and I got on with well. Cacked myself giving her my phone number, unfortunately she misread it, and so we only actually spoke again by chance, as I thought I’d scared her off.

We then arranged to meet up for a drink, and what followed was the best night I’d had in months, just laughing and laughing. At the end of the night I resolved, I may be attracted to this girl, but if this is how we are after only meeting a couple of times, I’d rather be mates (which we still are now).

I went to parties for the next couple of months, always looking for any possible female attention, nearly got some on Halloween, when her ex turned up and dragged her away for a dance (ARGH!)

Finally, after 3 months, the new year rolls around, and I’m invited to a party by the above mentioned friend. There, I meet a girl who seems a good laugh, good looking, and someone whispers in my ear that she likes the look of me too. Unfortunately by this point, she’s so pissed she’s falling off the furniture, so I figured it wouldn’t be the best time to approach just yet. Ended up chatting to her later on, got her number and my first kiss in months! Headed home, walking on air.

Then I managed to cock that up too, by being too forward, and not thinking about what I was saying. However, my viewpoint here was, I’ve done it once, I can do it again, and walked away with my head held high!

Three weeks later I see a girl, who I knew through friends. She’s come over to my house to see my housemate, as they had a good laugh the last time they’d met. I was in a furious mood after an argument with someone over something. After calming down, I spent the next couple of hours chatting to her. Ended the day with another kiss and another phone number.

We chatted a lot over the next few weeks, over both emails and texts.

Then, one day, I was off work ill, it turns out she’d given it to my housemate, it hadn’t affected him much, then it passed to me. She offered to come over and look after me, even agreeing to feed me marmite on toast :D

One thing led to another that day, and I was on top of the world again. A couple of weeks later she asked whether I actually liked her, I answered in the positive, her response was “So why haven’t you asked me out yet?”

“Hmmmm….good point. Will you go out with me?”
“…I’ll let you know”

ARGH! WOMEN!

Handily, she only made me stew 24 hours, and we started going out the next day, 23rd January.

It’s been 7 months now, and I still want to wring her neck half the time, she admits she wants to push me down the stairs at least once a day, but we love each other after all!

My advice to you all is this – Get rejected as soon as possible, it doesn’t half help!

Length? Ask her ;)
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Tue 2 Sep 2008, 11:38, 3 replies)

aaw
It could have been worse, that's the best I can come up with.
(trippeh, Tue 2 Sep 2008, 14:23, closed)

Happy endings
Well, seems you've had quite the rough ride recently, but I'm glad to see that you're happy now!
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Tue 2 Sep 2008, 15:00, closed)

Macc Women
They're an odd bunch they are!

edit: I'll be in town Friday night if you facny a beer or 3, but still barred from the Swan :0(
( SpikeyPickle wishes he was mabazaritchie, Tue 2 Sep 2008, 15:35, closed)