Oh sweet lord, PJM!
My heart goes out to you. Big time.

I've been the one desperate to have a family at some point down the line, but for me that meant walking away from a relationship where the other person was equally adamant that it would never happen. Compromise does not work. It's a horrible thing to realise that love does not conquer all. It's also horrible to have to make such lifechanging choices. But it would be even more horrible to trap and bind someone else in a situation they did not want. As for people sneakily springing a surprise baby on their partner - is there anything less trusting and less loving? Fuck! Did she honestly think that you'd stay with her out of some sense of guilt or pity? And forsake your own happiness? The crumb of comfort I hold on to is that if one stays true to oneself and honest with others then at some point one hopefully meets someone who fits your life - and you, theirs.

And breathe.
( crackhouseceilidhband Fuck off back to Mumsnet, Tue 22 Apr 2008, 17:44, Reply)