I'm not so sure about this.
IMHO, it was a valid question; although possibly not asked in the most sensitive way. I concede I wasn't there, and it wasn't my relative; but please consider:

She'd just arrived, and was being examined. You know your mother and her medical history, he doesn't. Care-homes may not always provide good hand-overs, particularly on a sparsely-staffed night shift. The doctor needs to diagnose, and part of this is checking for baseline behaviour.

If it was the former option, they don't like to give unnessecary analgesia. If the latter, the longer he takes to discretely ask you carefully-phrased questions, or ensure that the answers she gives are cogent, the longer you risk leaving someone in pain; and the longer other patients wait for care. It's not pleasant, but the doctor may have taken the least-worst option.

(edited repeatedly for clarity of expression)
(The Incredible Sulk Finally remembered his password on, Mon 15 Mar 2010, 16:02, 1 reply)

Never assume anything.
I agree it was a question that may have needed to be asked. I do understand why you thought the doctor was a cock though.
(Me, I'm not... in any way intoxicated, Mon 15 Mar 2010, 17:44, closed)