Thank you
I have been contemplating posting something similar since this QOTW started but have been too wary of posting. My midlife crisis had me in the autumn of 2011. I moved out in March 2012, and now after a failed reconciliation I'm now staring down the barrel of where you were in 2002. I'm shitting myself.
(mersault, Sat 4 May 2013, 14:02, 2 replies)

Bloody go for it.
Similar happened to me. Things may have been rough at times since, but it's still better than my first marriage.

At least you gave it another try! I couldn't manage that.
(Juan Quar is clinging to her front teeth on, Sat 4 May 2013, 14:08, closed)

had to try
Still loved her and she said she still loved me. Kids are now 8 and 10. I can't bear the thought of them being brought up by the lowlife that came between us.
(mersault, Sat 4 May 2013, 14:14, closed)

Not good, however
it's up to your ex who she chooses to be with. Don't turn your kids into a weapon. Respect her choice, as long as he's not a kiddie-fiddler, grin and bear it. You'll do more for your kids by biting your lip now, and then telling them home truths once they are old enough and have left home. Don't tell them that mum's new boyfriend's a wanker...if he is, they'll work that out for themselves. Be the adult, let the kids be the kids. Best of luck sir.
(TheImmortalJenkins, Sat 4 May 2013, 14:50, closed)

This is great advice.
It's about keeping your dignity.
(Juan Quar is clinging to her front teeth on, Sat 4 May 2013, 15:13, closed)

Thank you.
Thanks for the advice, makes great sense. I'm trying to keep a lid on it. I'm also trying to keep some sort of positive relationship with the inlaws, as I really like them, and they tell me they like me. She'll try and do a number on me again and turn me in to the bad guy, to alienate me from them, but for now I'm biting my tongue.
(mersault, Sat 4 May 2013, 15:45, closed)

Bite it!
Bite it like the Devil himself!
(Juan Quar is clinging to her front teeth on, Sat 4 May 2013, 16:02, closed)

The advice above is good.
I held my tongue for years as the ex referred to me as That Bastard in front of the kids and insinuated loads of things to them, especially that I had gone back to university so I could fuck young coeds. She did her best to assassinate my character to one and all, including my sister and mother.

Over a few years the kids saw through it all, and have asked me a lot of questions about that time. I answered them fully, then let them come to their own conclusions.

As I said, they now see more of me than they do of their mother, even though I'm a third of the way around the globe.

The truth will out.
( The Resident Loon Not a demographic. Do not measure., Sat 4 May 2013, 16:08, closed)

Great advice indeed
thanks all
(mersault, Sat 4 May 2013, 16:27, closed)