So let him be flouncing and flustered.
Why do you have to keep him sweet anyway? Fuck him and his lack of manners.

For example; next time he tells you he's coming down, tell him he's not because it's not convenient. Done.
( Kroney, Mon 10 Jan 2011, 11:27, 2 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

exactly this
he may be an awful shitcunt when crossed but if you have nothing to do with him then you won't know.

life is too short to put up with that shit
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 10 Jan 2011, 11:32, Reply)

it's not that easy
He'll piss and whinge to the parents to such an extent that they'll ring me and tell me to be nice because they can't stand him or his whimging any more than I can. He doesn't even do it that deliberately, he just has no social skills whatsoever and either can't tell or doesn't care that he pisses people off.
(berk, Mon 10 Jan 2011, 11:37, Reply)

None of that is your problem.
He's only doing this because you let him.
( Kroney, Mon 10 Jan 2011, 11:40, Reply)

Hang on ....so he's older than you?
Christ...I assumed from your earlier descriptions that he was some younger spawning that hadn't quite "left home" and so could possibly-tenuously be given the benefit of the doubt as he maybe didn't know any better. But 35? You'd expect people to know how to behave themselves by that age (Monty possibly excepted). Why do the parents put up with his shit?
(LongJohnBaldry, Mon 10 Jan 2011, 11:42, Reply)

Because his dad just shakes his head and ignores it
and neither mum nor I can bring ourselves to be as brutally rude as we would need to be for him to get the message. He lived with me for about 18 months when I was 17 and he nearly gave me a nervous breakdown (not a lolmental one, a real one). And yes, a full 10 years older than me.
(berk, Mon 10 Jan 2011, 12:18, Reply)