good article,
I quite enjoy confrontation. It's exciting and extremely satisfying.
( SteveFrench Cardio is for homo's. do you even lift bro?, Mon 21 Feb 2011, 14:29, 1 reply, 15 years ago)

Me too
That's why I'm so fucking horrible to people.

Actually, that's a massive lie. I'm really pissed of with The Housemate at the moment, but there's no way I'll ever tell him. I'll just bitch online instead. Much safer.
(BelladonnaAnodyne Melissa's gonna wet herself, I swear..., Mon 21 Feb 2011, 14:31, Reply)

It would be massively passive-agressive and contrary to the point of the article
If I "accidentally" left the computer on with just that article on when The Housemate came home, wouldn't it?
(BelladonnaAnodyne Melissa's gonna wet herself, I swear..., Mon 21 Feb 2011, 14:40, Reply)

Depends whether he knows he's done wrong
if not, he'll just think you're reading the Guardian. Leave a word document on the screen saying "YOU FUCKING CUNT" in 72-point Helvetica instead
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Mon 21 Feb 2011, 14:42, Reply)

He reads the Guardian too
I might just start a conversation tonight about it.

"So, seen that article on why confrontation is good? What did you think? I mean, if there was something that was UTTERLY DRIVING ME INSANE, I don't think I'd do anything more than mention it in passing a couple of times and hope the person got the hint. Apropos of nothing, are you any closer to sorting out that laptop with Richie?"
(BelladonnaAnodyne Melissa's gonna wet herself, I swear..., Mon 21 Feb 2011, 14:50, Reply)

We appear to be having two conversations about the same thing
to whit, the above is genius and gets my vote, not least for the use of "apropos of nothing"
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Mon 21 Feb 2011, 15:01, Reply)

We are
I just want my computer in my room, because that would solve all the other problems we have too - like the fact that he always fucks about with the lighting as soon as he walks in the door without asking me (it fucks with my eyes, which is why it bothers me), and he ALWAYS opens the curtains (computer is right next to the window and we don't have double glazing), refuses to believe that makes it colder, then TURNS THE FUCKING HEATING ON. Oh, and the heating is *always* on when he's home, but he has a go at me for forgetting to turn the water heater off for like, 2 hours after I've done the washing up.
(BelladonnaAnodyne Melissa's gonna wet herself, I swear..., Mon 21 Feb 2011, 15:06, Reply)

I would suggest having a Proper Grown-Up Talk
but it sounds like he's a bit too useless to listen or understand. Might be time to cut your losses
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Mon 21 Feb 2011, 15:11, Reply)

But if we have a Proper Grown Up Talk
He can (quite rightly) bring up my shortcomings in the housemate department, which would make me think "OK yeah, he has a point" and back down again.

Just want my stupid computer.
(BelladonnaAnodyne Melissa's gonna wet herself, I swear..., Mon 21 Feb 2011, 15:15, Reply)

If it bothers you this much you really need to take drastic action
or make it fucking apparent that you will if he doesn't shape the fuck up
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Mon 21 Feb 2011, 15:19, Reply)

Do tell

(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Mon 21 Feb 2011, 14:40, Reply)

Just... everything
But mainly the fact that he has this girlfriend who is absolutely insufferable. That wouldn't be a problem in itself but for the fact that my computer is downstairs so he can share it. This was supposed to be a short-term measure until he collected a laptop someone is giving him. It has been 5 months - the person lives round the corner. Also, he still hasn't sorted out his room properly, so when she comes over (about 3/4 times a week - they don't go to hers because she has kids), they chill out down here. So I have to go to my room, and be without my computer.

He either needs to sort out his room or sort out this lap top, but he is fucking useless and won't do either. When I'm on a break on a split shift, all I want to do is bugger about on line and listen to music, and catch up on some reading, but I seem to spend all my breaks sat in my room sulking because either he's hijacked the computer, or she's over.

There are other things too, but I wouldn't mind them IF MY COMPUTER WAS IN MY ROOM.
(BelladonnaAnodyne Melissa's gonna wet herself, I swear..., Mon 21 Feb 2011, 14:47, Reply)

There's a simple answer to that
and if he objects, play the "it's important for me to be able to do research/look for a job undisturbed" card. Not much arguing with that, especially since he has a solution waiting for him to become less of a lazy twat
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Mon 21 Feb 2011, 14:55, Reply)

I've tried that
Two weeks ago he was all "Oh, just give me a couple more days to sort out this laptop, then move the computer". STILL NOTHING.

The thing is, he knows it's awkward when the dreaded Pippa comes over, and I've tried to prove my point by standing my ground and not leaving the room while she's here, but it backfires because I feel awkward too.
(BelladonnaAnodyne Melissa's gonna wet herself, I swear..., Mon 21 Feb 2011, 15:00, Reply)