I've got a good couple of hours to do.
Since my ex told me there was no way my daughter will be staying over until she's 'at least five' my flat has gone to shit.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Sat 21 May 2011, 10:31, 1 reply, 15 years ago)

Your ex needs her knees broken
but I suppose if she's being reasonable about giving you access at her own place, that's something at least. Why won't she let your daughter stay at yours?
(berk, Sat 21 May 2011, 10:33, Reply)

Because monty's house is made of drugs

( TGB checking Off Topic is still shit at, Sat 21 May 2011, 10:36, Reply)

But as I recall
the ex isn't a great deal better in that regard? Besides, I'm sure Monty behaves himself around his little 'un and that if she were to visit, anything and everything naughty would be safely stashed away. I'm sure the ex knows that, too.
(berk, Sat 21 May 2011, 10:39, Reply)

She knows that good and well.
She knows for sure that I'd never in a million years let her come to harm or even see any of that stuff. She knows it but pretends that's a concern. Despite the fact that when she handed my daughter over to me a couple of weeks ago she was blatantly coked out of her mind.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Sat 21 May 2011, 10:43, Reply)

You daughter will be a very interesting case of nature vs nurture

( TGB checking Off Topic is still shit at, Sat 21 May 2011, 10:44, Reply)

She's being brought up brilliantly, though.
For an only child she knows very well that sharing is good, snatching stuff is bad, etc. - compared with the girl upstairs who's a few months older, she's an angel. She gets overexcited rather than tantrummy, and when she does this her mother gets her to sit on her bed for a couple of minutes to calm down. So far so good, it seems.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Sat 21 May 2011, 10:50, Reply)

well that's good to hear

( TGB checking Off Topic is still shit at, Sat 21 May 2011, 10:52, Reply)

Because she knows how much I and my family want it and therefore because she can say no, she does.
I can sympathise a little - my mother recently pointed out that as a mother, you don't trust ANYONE with your child, even if you're married to them it's hard to let the child out of your sight, but there's an undercurrent of spite to all this which is most definitely not just a genetic desire to protect one's offspring.

Still, I was allowed to take her to my mother's 60th last Sunday which she'd been saying no to for about 6 months. That was a fairly major event.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Sat 21 May 2011, 10:39, Reply)

Of course I've never met her
and am never likely to, so I shouldn't pre-judge...but your ex really does sound like a fucking disgraceful excuse for a human being. Using your kid as a pawn in some mindgame is just not on. I'm really happy for you that you got to take her to your mother's birthday bash, though.
(berk, Sat 21 May 2011, 10:42, Reply)